"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Walking Anomaly

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Hey all, How's Life??

Anyway, I got this new girlfriend. She's cool and everything and she likes me enough to bring up us becoming a couple so now you could say we're official.

We go out last night and things go great. We get back to my house and things get heavy, and we end up trying to have sex...i say trying because it was unsuccessful. Ya see, she's a virgin, so when we were trying, it would not go in. After a little bit of trying I stop and we just chill...I'm not forcing it. We talk and laugh a bit (not about the sex attempt), and I take her home.

I say it's a potentially awkward situation because now that sex was tried for the first time and failed, the next time it comes, the first failed attempt might be in the back of my head f*kin with me a bit, even though it wasn't anything I did. And I'm sure she'll have it in the back of her mind too.

There's also a question in the back of my mind along the lines of what was said in the above paragraph...since we've tried once already, I'm thinking it might be awkward because the next time we hang, she might be expecting it or something, or not want to chill because she's figures i'll do it again and that's going to fast for her...

I'm not going to try again the very next time we see each other...we'll do whatever I have planned and thats it, going back to each others house is still fair game, but I'm not going to focus on making moves...


I'm probably overanalyzing
Advice, criticisms, or thoughts on how I handled it are welcome
Much appreciated

Let me know if you need more info...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Kidd

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Are you sure you were sticking it in the right place?
 

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Originally posted by Kidd
Are you sure you were sticking it in the right place?
:crackup: !!!

Oh man, lol!

Dude, don't worry about it, just laugh about it, and do whatever your primal instincts tell you to do next time.
 

NYC Dude

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Though it seems silly, Kidd may be right. Unless your **** is damn huge, it should still be able to go in.
 

oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by NYC Dude
Though it seems silly, Kidd may be right. Unless your **** is damn huge, it should still be able to go in.
Youd be suprised how tight p*ssies are. My ex wasnt a virgin but she was tight as hell and it was a little hard to get it in.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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08aisaac

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I can imagine, this is weird, but only if you think it is weird. It's all in the head. No pun intended.
 
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Originally posted by Walking Anomaly
Hey all, How's Life??

Anyway, I got this new girlfriend. She's cool and everything and she likes me enough to bring up us becoming a couple so now you could say we're official.

We go out last night and things go great. We get back to my house and things get heavy, and we end up trying to have sex...i say trying because it was unsuccessful. Ya see, she's a virgin, so when we were trying, it would not go in. After a little bit of trying I stop and we just chill...I'm not forcing it. We talk and laugh a bit (not about the sex attempt), and I take her home.

I say it's a potentially awkward situation because now that sex was tried for the first time and failed, the next time it comes, the first failed attempt might be in the back of my head f*kin with me a bit, even though it wasn't anything I did. And I'm sure she'll have it in the back of her mind too.

There's also a question in the back of my mind along the lines of what was said in the above paragraph...since we've tried once already, I'm thinking it might be awkward because the next time we hang, she might be expecting it or something, or not want to chill because she's figures i'll do it again and that's going to fast for her...

I'm not going to try again the very next time we see each other...we'll do whatever I have planned and thats it, going back to each others house is still fair game, but I'm not going to focus on making moves...


I'm probably overanalyzing
Advice, criticisms, or thoughts on how I handled it are welcome
Much appreciated

Let me know if you need more info...

Dude where are you from ???kentucky, virginia or what? Your probaly tryin to stick it on top lol Dude this is the funniest sh*t i ever heard!
 

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Stick your **** in a bucket of vaseline and then push with all your might. That's pretty much the last resort.

:D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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