"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Walking Anomaly

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Hey all, How's Life??

Anyway, I got this new girlfriend. She's cool and everything and she likes me enough to bring up us becoming a couple so now you could say we're official.

We go out last night and things go great. We get back to my house and things get heavy, and we end up trying to have sex...i say trying because it was unsuccessful. Ya see, she's a virgin, so when we were trying, it would not go in. After a little bit of trying I stop and we just chill...I'm not forcing it. We talk and laugh a bit (not about the sex attempt), and I take her home.

I say it's a potentially awkward situation because now that sex was tried for the first time and failed, the next time it comes, the first failed attempt might be in the back of my head f*kin with me a bit, even though it wasn't anything I did. And I'm sure she'll have it in the back of her mind too.

There's also a question in the back of my mind along the lines of what was said in the above paragraph...since we've tried once already, I'm thinking it might be awkward because the next time we hang, she might be expecting it or something, or not want to chill because she's figures i'll do it again and that's going to fast for her...

I'm not going to try again the very next time we see each other...we'll do whatever I have planned and thats it, going back to each others house is still fair game, but I'm not going to focus on making moves...


I'm probably overanalyzing
Advice, criticisms, or thoughts on how I handled it are welcome
Much appreciated

Let me know if you need more info...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are you sure you were sticking it in the right place?
 

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Originally posted by Kidd
Are you sure you were sticking it in the right place?
:crackup: !!!

Oh man, lol!

Dude, don't worry about it, just laugh about it, and do whatever your primal instincts tell you to do next time.
 

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Though it seems silly, Kidd may be right. Unless your **** is damn huge, it should still be able to go in.
 

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Originally posted by NYC Dude
Though it seems silly, Kidd may be right. Unless your **** is damn huge, it should still be able to go in.
Youd be suprised how tight p*ssies are. My ex wasnt a virgin but she was tight as hell and it was a little hard to get it in.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I can imagine, this is weird, but only if you think it is weird. It's all in the head. No pun intended.
 
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Originally posted by Walking Anomaly
Hey all, How's Life??

Anyway, I got this new girlfriend. She's cool and everything and she likes me enough to bring up us becoming a couple so now you could say we're official.

We go out last night and things go great. We get back to my house and things get heavy, and we end up trying to have sex...i say trying because it was unsuccessful. Ya see, she's a virgin, so when we were trying, it would not go in. After a little bit of trying I stop and we just chill...I'm not forcing it. We talk and laugh a bit (not about the sex attempt), and I take her home.

I say it's a potentially awkward situation because now that sex was tried for the first time and failed, the next time it comes, the first failed attempt might be in the back of my head f*kin with me a bit, even though it wasn't anything I did. And I'm sure she'll have it in the back of her mind too.

There's also a question in the back of my mind along the lines of what was said in the above paragraph...since we've tried once already, I'm thinking it might be awkward because the next time we hang, she might be expecting it or something, or not want to chill because she's figures i'll do it again and that's going to fast for her...

I'm not going to try again the very next time we see each other...we'll do whatever I have planned and thats it, going back to each others house is still fair game, but I'm not going to focus on making moves...


I'm probably overanalyzing
Advice, criticisms, or thoughts on how I handled it are welcome
Much appreciated

Let me know if you need more info...

Dude where are you from ???kentucky, virginia or what? Your probaly tryin to stick it on top lol Dude this is the funniest sh*t i ever heard!
 

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Stick your **** in a bucket of vaseline and then push with all your might. That's pretty much the last resort.

:D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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