"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Walking Anomaly

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Hey all, How's Life??

Anyway, I got this new girlfriend. She's cool and everything and she likes me enough to bring up us becoming a couple so now you could say we're official.

We go out last night and things go great. We get back to my house and things get heavy, and we end up trying to have sex...i say trying because it was unsuccessful. Ya see, she's a virgin, so when we were trying, it would not go in. After a little bit of trying I stop and we just chill...I'm not forcing it. We talk and laugh a bit (not about the sex attempt), and I take her home.

I say it's a potentially awkward situation because now that sex was tried for the first time and failed, the next time it comes, the first failed attempt might be in the back of my head f*kin with me a bit, even though it wasn't anything I did. And I'm sure she'll have it in the back of her mind too.

There's also a question in the back of my mind along the lines of what was said in the above paragraph...since we've tried once already, I'm thinking it might be awkward because the next time we hang, she might be expecting it or something, or not want to chill because she's figures i'll do it again and that's going to fast for her...

I'm not going to try again the very next time we see each other...we'll do whatever I have planned and thats it, going back to each others house is still fair game, but I'm not going to focus on making moves...


I'm probably overanalyzing
Advice, criticisms, or thoughts on how I handled it are welcome
Much appreciated

Let me know if you need more info...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Kidd

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Are you sure you were sticking it in the right place?
 

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Originally posted by Kidd
Are you sure you were sticking it in the right place?
:crackup: !!!

Oh man, lol!

Dude, don't worry about it, just laugh about it, and do whatever your primal instincts tell you to do next time.
 

NYC Dude

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Though it seems silly, Kidd may be right. Unless your **** is damn huge, it should still be able to go in.
 

oakraiderz2

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Originally posted by NYC Dude
Though it seems silly, Kidd may be right. Unless your **** is damn huge, it should still be able to go in.
Youd be suprised how tight p*ssies are. My ex wasnt a virgin but she was tight as hell and it was a little hard to get it in.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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08aisaac

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I can imagine, this is weird, but only if you think it is weird. It's all in the head. No pun intended.
 
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Originally posted by Walking Anomaly
Hey all, How's Life??

Anyway, I got this new girlfriend. She's cool and everything and she likes me enough to bring up us becoming a couple so now you could say we're official.

We go out last night and things go great. We get back to my house and things get heavy, and we end up trying to have sex...i say trying because it was unsuccessful. Ya see, she's a virgin, so when we were trying, it would not go in. After a little bit of trying I stop and we just chill...I'm not forcing it. We talk and laugh a bit (not about the sex attempt), and I take her home.

I say it's a potentially awkward situation because now that sex was tried for the first time and failed, the next time it comes, the first failed attempt might be in the back of my head f*kin with me a bit, even though it wasn't anything I did. And I'm sure she'll have it in the back of her mind too.

There's also a question in the back of my mind along the lines of what was said in the above paragraph...since we've tried once already, I'm thinking it might be awkward because the next time we hang, she might be expecting it or something, or not want to chill because she's figures i'll do it again and that's going to fast for her...

I'm not going to try again the very next time we see each other...we'll do whatever I have planned and thats it, going back to each others house is still fair game, but I'm not going to focus on making moves...


I'm probably overanalyzing
Advice, criticisms, or thoughts on how I handled it are welcome
Much appreciated

Let me know if you need more info...

Dude where are you from ???kentucky, virginia or what? Your probaly tryin to stick it on top lol Dude this is the funniest sh*t i ever heard!
 

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Stick your **** in a bucket of vaseline and then push with all your might. That's pretty much the last resort.

:D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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