"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Avoiding flakes/canceling from happening

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I think flaking is far more common with OLD than it is with someone you met in a normal in person setting. I also feel that this is somewhat common from numbers you get at a bar, I'm not basing this just off of personal experience but from observations as well.

Women today are just flaky in general, mostly due to just how many men they have as options. You also need to realize that women, like men, may have other stuff going on in their life that have nothing to do with dating. Do you think you'd be a priority if she is in the middle of finishing up her nursing degree or insert whatever life event when she doesn't even know you? Of course not.

With that said, I've had women ask ME out and proceed to flake on me out of the blue on a scheduled date and then ghost. Women may do this due to having tons of options, wanting to lead men on or perhaps it's just the game they play to put themselves in a position of power.

I've personally found that at the first sign of a flake it's better to just delete the number. On a side note, this is just the way women operate now and chances are they aren't all that into you in the first place.
Again...your issues are not normal. You are literally scaring these women away before many interactions and if that doesn't succeed you make sure after the first date
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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