"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Attractiveness

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I think male attractiveness and female attractiveness is much different.

It's easy enough to know which women are more attractive than others; even though opinion and taste play a role, there still seems to be a "scale" (1-10) on which there is vague agreement.

In men there seem to only be three categories:
  1. Attractive enough for women to overlook bad things;
  2. Unattractive enough for women to ignore good things;
  3. The vast middle, where women will find you attractive or unattractive based on factors other than your looks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think you´re on to something.

When in LTRs, if you are at the top of your girl´s list, she will never cheat or branch swing and will overlook bad things about you.
 

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I think you´re on to something.

When in LTRs, if you are at the top of your girl´s list, she will never cheat or branch swing and will overlook bad things about you.
Until she tests ur frame....

Then she loses all attraction.
 

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I guess it all depends. I have had a IDGAF attitude lately most of the time in my LTR (2+ years now) and GF seems hotter for me now than during the honeymoon phase of the relationship. She can´t get enough of my d1ck.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Agree with those three. Vast middle is dominant experience. Depends heavily on her relative attractiveness and idiosyncratic physical ideal.
LARaiders, I've been thinking abt people with the expressive personality such as you.

You'll make an excellent candidate for a chit chat.

I'll gather my thoughts and look you up.
 
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