"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Attractiveness

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I think male attractiveness and female attractiveness is much different.

It's easy enough to know which women are more attractive than others; even though opinion and taste play a role, there still seems to be a "scale" (1-10) on which there is vague agreement.

In men there seem to only be three categories:
  1. Attractive enough for women to overlook bad things;
  2. Unattractive enough for women to ignore good things;
  3. The vast middle, where women will find you attractive or unattractive based on factors other than your looks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think you´re on to something.

When in LTRs, if you are at the top of your girl´s list, she will never cheat or branch swing and will overlook bad things about you.
 

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I think you´re on to something.

When in LTRs, if you are at the top of your girl´s list, she will never cheat or branch swing and will overlook bad things about you.
Until she tests ur frame....

Then she loses all attraction.
 

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I guess it all depends. I have had a IDGAF attitude lately most of the time in my LTR (2+ years now) and GF seems hotter for me now than during the honeymoon phase of the relationship. She can´t get enough of my d1ck.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Agree with those three. Vast middle is dominant experience. Depends heavily on her relative attractiveness and idiosyncratic physical ideal.
LARaiders, I've been thinking abt people with the expressive personality such as you.

You'll make an excellent candidate for a chit chat.

I'll gather my thoughts and look you up.
 
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