"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Attractiveness

Murk

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I think male attractiveness and female attractiveness is much different.

It's easy enough to know which women are more attractive than others; even though opinion and taste play a role, there still seems to be a "scale" (1-10) on which there is vague agreement.

In men there seem to only be three categories:
  1. Attractive enough for women to overlook bad things;
  2. Unattractive enough for women to ignore good things;
  3. The vast middle, where women will find you attractive or unattractive based on factors other than your looks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think you´re on to something.

When in LTRs, if you are at the top of your girl´s list, she will never cheat or branch swing and will overlook bad things about you.
 

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I think you´re on to something.

When in LTRs, if you are at the top of your girl´s list, she will never cheat or branch swing and will overlook bad things about you.
Until she tests ur frame....

Then she loses all attraction.
 

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I guess it all depends. I have had a IDGAF attitude lately most of the time in my LTR (2+ years now) and GF seems hotter for me now than during the honeymoon phase of the relationship. She can´t get enough of my d1ck.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Spaz

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Agree with those three. Vast middle is dominant experience. Depends heavily on her relative attractiveness and idiosyncratic physical ideal.
LARaiders, I've been thinking abt people with the expressive personality such as you.

You'll make an excellent candidate for a chit chat.

I'll gather my thoughts and look you up.
 
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