I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
Yea man you need to fix your profile to what YOU expect not what THEY expect. I like how you have your profile on private. But sometimes this is good sometimes bad. You may need to be the one browsing for females instead of them looking for you. And suit your profile to what you look for. You like to have fun? post pics of you hangin out with the boys and having funBlackmm said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
So true. An aside; there seems to be an societal issue with women who have biracial children being able to be accepted by men of their own culture after breaking up with the child's father. It also seems as if the women set the race of the child as the foremost qualifier for their perspective partners. Don't mean for this to become a thread about race, just giving some insight.AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
LOL lowerd herself? wow if america stilll thinks this then america is ****ed upKarmaSutra said:
Well said 'Cisco. Don't worry though, someone will turn this into a racial issue.
It seems to me that women who have bi-racial children who return to the market are desired by neither race. It's as if she has "lowered herself" in either eyes of the men she's trying to gain attention.
Yea but who would want to date a narrow minded women anywase? who expects "since i have a biracial child all black men will want me? NOTFrancisco d'Anconia said:
Sad, but I can see that happening. It goes to question if it's about the guy's principles or his ego. Is it that he wouldn't want to raise another man's child or a specific man's child. Then of course, how he now views the woman. Is she a a single mother who didn't have a solid relationship or is she a woman who crossed over and doesn't deserve crossing back.KarmaSutra said:
Well said 'Cisco. Don't worry though, someone will turn this into a racial issue.
It seems to me that women who have bi-racial children who return to the market are desired by neither race. It's as if she has "lowered herself" in either eyes of the men she's trying to gain attention.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I'm right with you on that. People typically gravitate to what they are accustomed to which tend to be social stereotypes.AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
