You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
Yea man you need to fix your profile to what YOU expect not what THEY expect. I like how you have your profile on private. But sometimes this is good sometimes bad. You may need to be the one browsing for females instead of them looking for you. And suit your profile to what you look for. You like to have fun? post pics of you hangin out with the boys and having funBlackmm said:
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
So true. An aside; there seems to be an societal issue with women who have biracial children being able to be accepted by men of their own culture after breaking up with the child's father. It also seems as if the women set the race of the child as the foremost qualifier for their perspective partners. Don't mean for this to become a thread about race, just giving some insight.AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
LOL lowerd herself? wow if america stilll thinks this then america is ****ed upKarmaSutra said:
Well said 'Cisco. Don't worry though, someone will turn this into a racial issue.
It seems to me that women who have bi-racial children who return to the market are desired by neither race. It's as if she has "lowered herself" in either eyes of the men she's trying to gain attention.
Yea but who would want to date a narrow minded women anywase? who expects "since i have a biracial child all black men will want me? NOTFrancisco d'Anconia said:
Sad, but I can see that happening. It goes to question if it's about the guy's principles or his ego. Is it that he wouldn't want to raise another man's child or a specific man's child. Then of course, how he now views the woman. Is she a a single mother who didn't have a solid relationship or is she a woman who crossed over and doesn't deserve crossing back.KarmaSutra said:
Well said 'Cisco. Don't worry though, someone will turn this into a racial issue.
It seems to me that women who have bi-racial children who return to the market are desired by neither race. It's as if she has "lowered herself" in either eyes of the men she's trying to gain attention.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm right with you on that. People typically gravitate to what they are accustomed to which tend to be social stereotypes.AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
