That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
Yea man you need to fix your profile to what YOU expect not what THEY expect. I like how you have your profile on private. But sometimes this is good sometimes bad. You may need to be the one browsing for females instead of them looking for you. And suit your profile to what you look for. You like to have fun? post pics of you hangin out with the boys and having funBlackmm said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
So true. An aside; there seems to be an societal issue with women who have biracial children being able to be accepted by men of their own culture after breaking up with the child's father. It also seems as if the women set the race of the child as the foremost qualifier for their perspective partners. Don't mean for this to become a thread about race, just giving some insight.AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
Francisco d'Anconia said:
LOL lowerd herself? wow if america stilll thinks this then america is ****ed upKarmaSutra said:
Well said 'Cisco. Don't worry though, someone will turn this into a racial issue.
It seems to me that women who have bi-racial children who return to the market are desired by neither race. It's as if she has "lowered herself" in either eyes of the men she's trying to gain attention.
Yea but who would want to date a narrow minded women anywase? who expects "since i have a biracial child all black men will want me? NOTFrancisco d'Anconia said:
Sad, but I can see that happening. It goes to question if it's about the guy's principles or his ego. Is it that he wouldn't want to raise another man's child or a specific man's child. Then of course, how he now views the woman. Is she a a single mother who didn't have a solid relationship or is she a woman who crossed over and doesn't deserve crossing back.KarmaSutra said:
Well said 'Cisco. Don't worry though, someone will turn this into a racial issue.
It seems to me that women who have bi-racial children who return to the market are desired by neither race. It's as if she has "lowered herself" in either eyes of the men she's trying to gain attention.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm right with you on that. People typically gravitate to what they are accustomed to which tend to be social stereotypes.AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
