"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Attracted to a girls personality but not her body?
- Thread starter Skel
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
No, it's the effect of a lack of options.Skel said:
Spin more plates.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
I think she would be categorized as a "friend." Guy's can actually know females that they don't want to bang; strange but true.Skel said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Desdinova
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After encountering tons of women, I ended up feeling like this with just about every woman I met. They had to do a lot more for me than just look good, and I found out how many of them actually did more for me. The answer was not many. The minute many women opened their mouth, I was completely turned off.
Sometimes you need to be stimulated mentally before being stimulated sexually. I'd say take her out and see if she actually works to stimulate you. You'd be surprised at how much effort a woman is willing to put into getting your d1ck to stand up straight. You might also be surprised at WHAT will make your d1ck stand up. Women REALLY DO enjoy a challenge!
Martin Shabazz Jr.
Don Juan
If not, then stop beatin' it.
iqqi
Master Don Juan
This is actually very true for most women, as well.Desdinova said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.