"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Im confused. I like this girl but I dont think shes hot. Ive been debating on asking her out but I dont feel sexually attracted to her. Is this an affect of lack of sleep or what?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Skel said:
Is this an affect of lack of sleep or what?
No, it's the effect of a lack of options.

Spin more plates.
 

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Yeah I guess so. Ive been working like 70 hours a week and havent been out in months because im so exhausted. Havent met anyone in a long time.
 

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Skel said:
Im confused. I like this girl but I dont think shes hot. Ive been debating on asking her out but I dont feel sexually attracted to her. Is this an affect of lack of sleep or what?
I think she would be categorized as a "friend." Guy's can actually know females that they don't want to bang; strange but true.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Working a lot and no sexual desire sounds way too suspecious.. I think you're just working too much and need a PTO. Paid Time Off..
 

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I like this girl but I dont think shes hot. Ive been debating on asking her out but I dont feel sexually attracted to her.
After encountering tons of women, I ended up feeling like this with just about every woman I met. They had to do a lot more for me than just look good, and I found out how many of them actually did more for me. The answer was not many. The minute many women opened their mouth, I was completely turned off.

Sometimes you need to be stimulated mentally before being stimulated sexually. I'd say take her out and see if she actually works to stimulate you. You'd be surprised at how much effort a woman is willing to put into getting your d1ck to stand up straight. You might also be surprised at WHAT will make your d1ck stand up. Women REALLY DO enjoy a challenge!
 

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Desdinova said:
After encountering tons of women, I ended up feeling like this with just about every woman I met. They had to do a lot more for me than just look good, and I found out how many of them actually did more for me. The answer was not many. The minute many women opened their mouth, I was completely turned off.

Sometimes you need to be stimulated mentally before being stimulated sexually. I'd say take her out and see if she actually works to stimulate you. You'd be surprised at how much effort a woman is willing to put into getting your d1ck to stand up straight. You might also be surprised at WHAT will make your d1ck stand up. Women REALLY DO enjoy a challenge!

I'm with Desdinova here. There's a "looks is all" myth here at Sosuave.
 
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Is she obese and/or deformed?

If not, then stop beatin' it.
 
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Desdinova said:
After encountering tons of women, I ended up feeling like this with just about every woman I met. They had to do a lot more for me than just look good, and I found out how many of them actually did more for me. The answer was not many. The minute many women opened their mouth, I was completely turned off.

Sometimes you need to be stimulated mentally before being stimulated sexually.
This is actually very true for most women, as well. :up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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