:crackup:walletjes said:amsterdam?![]()
Or maybe some typical English nightclub...same quality women, but cheaper!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
:crackup:walletjes said:amsterdam?![]()
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Serialized3 said:Allright fellas, I've had enough of reading useless posts like some chick whining about how to get some guy to fall in love with her (hint: show up to his house naked with some beer) or some stupid kid's guesswork on evolutionary biology, this one is for the men who go out into the field and game the ladies and get results.
What's your count so far this month? And how did you do it?
I'll go first. My count so far this month is 3. One each week.
1. E was a little hottie from my softball team. Easily an 8. We were always friendly but I could tell she liked me. We hung out a couple times before I decided to go in for the kill. I planned for us to go to the batting cages one day, but they were closed. So I told her we were renting a movie and going back to her house. Pretty soon one thing led to another and I was all cuddled up with her. I used some cold-reading to get into her head (she was saying stuff like "I feel like I've known you all my life") and building emotional connections. Started off with soft little kisses, built up excitment, and didn't even have any LMR.
Unfortunately she freaked out the next morning and told me she was dating some other guy, and she didn't want to be guilted with seeing 2 guys at once. I sort of wanted an LTR with her but that's just the way it is.
2. K is one of my friends. About a 7 but too much makeup. We got really close one night and one thing led to another. Just more proof to all you chodes that you can easily hook up with your female friends. The key to it is to be confident, and make her attracted to you. I'll probably hook up with her more in the future, but she's got a cold right now.
3. J is some chick from work. Also a 7. I could tell she always liked me, so one night after a party I just invited her back to my house. I did some cold reading and sort of figured her out (even though in retrospect I probably didn't need to, but I'm genuinely interested in people) and I just told her to "lie down with me now" which she did, which led to cuddling, which led to kissing, which led to getting it ON. I think we'll hook up again.
So what's the best YOU got?
BMW said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.