Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I also love it when you mistakenly double post and you wasted another post and you can't delete it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
This.PrinceBeavis said:No one needs to be posting that much.
Exactly...Kaim Argonar said:Those elitists saying "ooooohhhh that's nice it will prevent the losers from wasting their lives on these forums!" are the worst.
That's so insane, on most forums regulars accumulate a post count that's much, much, MUCH higher than the regulars with the highest post counts have here. People just use this site to kill random boring moments in the day which will always exist.
Ohhhhh no, someone will waste his life away if for one or two days he actually enters an heated debate and makes a few dozens of posts in a short time period! It's the end of the world as we know it!
NO! he had a power trip and decided that he needed an ego boost so he reduced the level of freedom... if his board was not popular he would never have done this.. Typical human power trip:cuss:reset said:No guys it's not about money, remember the announcement? It's about quality over quantity. One day he was looking at the site and decided the quality had to go up.
Anyway, I've already said I'd even pay to have a premium membership. A lot of guys would.
Anyone notice that the PM box can store more messages now?
i feel the same way, im too scared to reply because i may want to reply in other threads through out the night....Latinoman said:Interestingly enough...there is not a sticky out there letting members know (especially the new ones or the ones that have not post in a while) about the rule.
I was gone for over a week and saw several threads that I wanted to contribute. But ended up posting only ONE TIME yesterday, because was concerned I would miss a good post in the unread threads.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Just create a new handle.. you could be Latinodude.Latinoman said:Interestingly enough...there is not a sticky out there letting members know (especially the new ones or the ones that have not post in a while) about the rule.
I was gone for over a week and saw several threads that I wanted to contribute. But ended up posting only ONE TIME yesterday, because was concerned I would miss a good post in the unread threads.
*Points you in the direction of a half dozen pages ago where we specifically stated that we have no control over that.* :kick:DonGorgon said:Why is it that when forums get popular these odd power moves always happen by mods? WHY?
OK so the mods are NOT behind this travesty .. its the site owner playing these dictator games... booooooooo to him:cuss:TheVirtualMind said:*Points you in the direction of a half dozen pages ago where we specifically stated that we have no control over that.* :kick:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.