"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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At what age did you get fed up of drinking alcohol ?

Bingo-Player

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Throughout my late 20's i started finding myself growing very tired of both the process, effect and aftermath of drinking alcohol so i really cut down my unit intake

Now i am 30 and at the stage where i am finding myself literally getting no enjoyment from it anymore , i find myself just sinking pints of beer for the sake of it

It's expensive , makes me feel like cr@p , usually depresses me and usually leads to terrible decision's

The guy i am currently living with loves drinking and has dragged me on a few lost causes in the last couple of weeks

Yesterday we went to watch some live sport he is drinking 2 beers to my 1 by the time the match has finished he can hardly walk straight its like 4.30 in the afternoon

He drags me around another couple of bars where i decide to switch to water , he makes some awful approaches at very low quality women and finally concludes the evening is not going anywhere

But before we leave he orders two ****tails for himself i tasted one and it tasted like straight vodka he downs both of them

I say what was the point in that ? , he replies "wanted to finish the night on a high lol"

By the time we got back to our apartment i was more or less sober and i was just thinking to myself this was literally the most pointless activity

Don't think i will go completely tee total but yea i don't wanna see another drink now until Christmas
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I'm a fairly large drinker, however, I do know that I need to cut back. I went dry for 5 weeks recently, the only reason I got back on the wagon, was I had COVID, and I was going stir-crazy in my apartment alone for a 7 day isolation lock-down, so the bottle became my friend for that period. I'll probably go sober again soon. I'm working on my fitness as well.
 

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I'm thinking about cutting back on this and seeing where this would take me. I feel like this is sort of hindering what projects I want to work on.
 

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I only really drank in college when we were hanging out having parties or going out places.

I drink socially sometimes but to be honest if I never had another drink for the rest of my life, it wouldn't bother me at all. I can go months between drinks and don't even think twice about it.
 

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I've gradually lost interest since my late 20s and now I truly hate it for the most part.

There are much better drugs for socializing or confidence. Phenibut / kratom in particular is god-mode.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've never gotten into lush mode because I hate being drunk and hangovers suck.. If I get past a certain level of drunkenness, I puke. This holds true for most toxic food as well.

The gf and I drink ****tails almost daily, but it's for the flavor and the craft. I even make my own liquors. But it's rare that I even get tipsy for the reason stated above.
 

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What does social drinking mean ?

Every social event ive been to where alcohol is involved 8/10 ends up in some type of carnage or someones upset someone else especially at work social events where absolutely nobody can seem to handle their drink
 

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My personal limit is 2 drinks per day.

In reality, I only ever drink on a social occasion or having a beer after a long hard workout. It tastes much better in the latter scenario.
 

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Im 34, 35 next month and been drinking since 19. Just in the past 3 years it has gotten worse. I shouldnt be drinking at all when i come to think of it but im drinking 10 beers everynight now
 

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Just in the past 3 years it has gotten worse. I shouldnt be drinking at all when i come to think of it but im drinking 10 beers everynight now
are you suffering any health issues ? Is it something you want to stop? I am in a similar boat.. I am 42 and drink much more than I would like. I have two massive glasses of wine 4 nights a week. I still maintain my fitness and 6 pack but literally feel like I’m killing myself in the gym and with cardio to do that. I want to cut back before it gets worse or I lose my health.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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are you suffering any health issues ? Is it something you want to stop? I am in a similar boat.. I am 42 and drink much more than I would like. I have two massive glasses of wine 4 nights a week. I still maintain my fitness and 6 pack but literally feel like I’m killing myself in the gym and with cardio to do that. I want to cut back before it gets worse or I lose my health.
Just went to the doctor last week, all in good health besides my liver values are a bit elevated and i suffer from acid reflux pretty frequently. I agree i feel like im killing myself if in the end. Not to mention my family has very bad health issues and my dad had a heart attack at 37 and his brother who was a big drinker of vodka died at 31 from a massive heart attack from overdrinking. Funny enough my mom, my dad and brother all don't drink, out of us 4 im the only one who OVER DOES IT.
 

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Thats not good health man. I’d check into AA. Elevated liver values are a sign of long term alcohol abuse.
Honestly i am thinking about AA, you're not wrong here. And these are my liver values:

ALT (SGPT)49 IU/L10 to 41 IU/L10 - 41 IU/LH
AST42 IU/L10 to 40 IU/L10 - 40 IU/LH
 

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Honestly i am thinking about AA, you're not wrong here. And these are my liver values:

ALT (SGPT)49 IU/L10 to 41 IU/L10 - 41 IU/LH
AST42 IU/L10 to 40 IU/L10 - 40 IU/LH
Fortunately you can turn this around. The liver can fully heal if you abstain from alcohol.

I love wine myself. My fiancé buys me those faux wine juice cvcktails. They taste similarly to wine but are alcohol free. Works for me…
 

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Fortunately you can turn this around. The liver can fully heal if you abstain from alcohol.

I love wine myself. My fiancé buys me those faux wine juice cvcktails. They taste similarly to wine but are alcohol free. Works for me…
Im reading about how to help my liver, I know milk thistle and NAC are good supplements as well, drink more water of course, good diet, start exercising again and of course, stop drinking so much ha. But yeah i did try non-alch beer before, while it tastes pretty much like beer i went for two weeks then went back and would seek beer behind my ex's back because she didnt like when i was drunk / would act different.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Im reading about how to help my liver, I know milk thistle and NAC are good supplements as well, drink more water of course, good diet, start exercising again and of course, stop drinking so much ha. But yeah i did try non-alch beer before, while it tastes pretty much like beer i went for two weeks then went back and would seek beer behind my ex's back because she didnt like when i was drunk / would act different.
I have read that doctors in Europe can actually prescribe milk thistle. That's never happening in the US, if big pharma has any say in the matter.

Dandelion root is cheap and often combined with milk thistle. I take several antioxidant supplements, usually the lower priced ones like elderberry, grapefruit seed extract, garlic, etc. Alcohol causes cell damage and the theory is that antioxidants help repair that damage.
 

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I have read that doctors in Europe can actually prescribe milk thistle. That's never happening in the US, if big pharma has any say in the matter.

Dandelion root is cheap and often combined with milk thistle. I take several antioxidant supplements, usually the lower priced ones like elderberry, grapefruit seed extract, garlic, etc. Alcohol causes cell damage and the theory is that antioxidants help repair that damage.
As far as i remember in the US you can buy milk thistle over the counter, I used to all the time back in my teens:

 

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Im reading about how to help my liver, I know milk thistle and NAC are good supplements as well, drink more water of course, good diet, start exercising again and of course, stop drinking so much ha. But yeah i did try non-alch beer before, while it tastes pretty much like beer i went for two weeks then went back and would seek beer behind my ex's back because she didnt like when i was drunk / would act different.
The way to help your liver is to stop drinking.

If mock drinks don’t work the addiction is likely already there. Please check out AA. We are pulling for you man!
 

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I still drink. I was getting tired of night game around 24. Trying to get laid from visiting bars can get exhausting. I then transitioned to more non-bar approaching by the latter part of my 20s.
 

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As far as i remember in the US you can buy milk thistle over the counter, I used to all the time back in my teens:

Yes, sorry, what I meant was that the use of herbs is not taught to medical professionals in the US. My own pa didn't know about milk thistle, to his credit he took a moment to Google it, then agreed it was not a bad idea for people who drink.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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