I was in the gym today and I see this girl that just does it for me. I mean girls turn me on, but something about this girls body, skin tone etc. just amazes me. Anyway I told myself that if I ever saw her again I would introduce myself just to build some rapart with her. Well I saw her today and wanted to keep it simple. She was in between sets and I said "hey how are you? i'm clay, i've seen you in here a lot when i'm here and i wanted to introduce myself." She responded with a high, a smile and her name. i went back to my area on the other side of the gym. Ten minutes later I look up and she's walking towards me and asks if i'm a student(college town) i replied no, i work for the company that owns the gym. (i'm 28, she looks to be about 23). i asked her, she said student. i said in what, she told me that she was about to graduate and her plans after etc. she then eluded that she would be coming back weekends, then she said she had to go to her spinning class. i ended it with a "hey, did you have good day?" which i got a big smile and yes from. I'm going to get her number if i see her again. i think it will be easy since she approached me. there has to be some interest on her part.
"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"
The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.
Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.
Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
white_hype
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trust me man, ive been around and 99% of the time when a girl iniaties stuff like that is because she is worried YOU wont ask her out or for her number so she feels she needs to start a covno with you
take this stuff as a greeen light and be AGRESSIVE (should have gotten the number that day)... you are 28 you should realise you dont need to keep wasting time and play what if? maybe? next time? games like that, just go for it and if it doesnt work out GOOD you can move on to the next girl
BAM I AM AWESOME
take this stuff as a greeen light and be AGRESSIVE (should have gotten the number that day)... you are 28 you should realise you dont need to keep wasting time and play what if? maybe? next time? games like that, just go for it and if it doesnt work out GOOD you can move on to the next girl
BAM I AM AWESOME
white_hype
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soon enough youll find that awkward situations are only awkward if you make them to be... personally i kinda like them casue when i see the other person acting all shy/embarassed and im acting like nothing happened its funny
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
yep cletus. yer right on the money.Originally posted by CLOONEY
Yep, excellent. When a girl approaches and asks you questions about your personal life, not just small chit chat, it means she wants your azz bad. Have fun with this one
point is when a chick doesn't dig you she's not gunna give you the time o' day. well maybe just the time but thats about it.
although i think you could have easily closed her that day i don't think you made a mistake by waiting. somtimes a good connection is worth more when it comes to having her not flaking on you later when you ask her out on a date.
PuertoRican_Lover
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She is wondering "Why did this guy introduce himself to me and not go any further? Let me go give him a hint and see if he has the balls to ask me for my number!"
You did the hard part! What kept you from doing the easy part?
You did the hard part! What kept you from doing the easy part?
E-Z Rider
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lol. You're right on.
Go for it- and hope you didn't screw up too badly by not getting the #. But be cool, and just take it as a lesson for next time. You're money- -E-Z
thanks guys, i'm sure i can pick it up when i see her again. funny thing though before i introduced myself she never made eye contact with me before. also, she told me that she "goes to cycling class a lot" would it be a bad idea to go to that class sometime?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.