"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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At the end of the day, this is just one Support Group. You should have more.

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One of my daily routines during the day is the following in this order:

1.) Yoga/exercise
2.) Japa meditation- Chanting God’s Holy names
3.) God centered lotus meditations
4.) Reading The Bible or The Bhagavadgita
5.) Praying, Praying for people I know and around the world
6.) Gratitude prayer
7.) Playing acoustic guitar Holy music
8.) Offering that worship session to God
9.) Doing chores around the house
10.) Spray my room with nice smelling air freshener
11.) Get a cup of wine or water
12.) Sit down and enjoy this relaxing, refreshing mood by connecting with support Groups such as this.


I’ll name one Facebook group which I think is cool. It’s called ‘ A group of people that pretends to be a family’, Love the vibe and positivity of that group. It’s from people from all walks of life. And the Groups you go to, shouldn’t be about dating either, it could be a comradery with your careers, hobbies, an illness or depression your suffering from, a habit you’re trying to get rid of etc.


Just going to those Support Groups day by day is a good form of social momentum and a natural way of connecting with others from a technological sense. So these type of things definitely helps.


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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't know what parts of the Bible you are reading that are cool with also being Hindu. One religion is monotheistic and the other isn't. I'm not saying which one is right, just that you don't get to be both at the same time.
 

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So you don't have a job?

Because that's important to put this in the right context. If you are retired and living it up in the Philippines, great for you. But most of us in the west will have to work sometimes two jobs and take care of numerous side hustles.

I kinda miss "going to the gym" by the way.

And how do you translate all this into being more attractive and actually coining in on that?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do you have a job or do you spend all day doing this stuff?

Im retired Air Force…Living off 4 grand a month off my pension. Im thinking of getting a remote job and being a part time writer to write books and novels. Im still waiting for my laptop to get fixed..lol its an HP maybe I should get a new one like a Mac.



Do you have any remote job suggestions for me and where I can find one?

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Do you have a job or do you spend all day doing this stuff?
But you do gotta point, Im a simple man at the end of the day who found the recipe to live a content, comfortable life….. My parents have a hotel that they own out here, I wouldn’t mind being a janitor and a cook out there, just to help out the staff.



Then maybe when Im done with my shift, get a few drinks, sing karaoke and do this routine at night and sleep contently…well it helps anyways, my demons sometimes attack me because Im schizophrenic. So yeah, I wouldn’t mind being a simple menial worker like a night shift janitor and a cook….because Ive got my pension to assist me and anything after that is complementary.

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But you do gotta point, Im a simple man at the end of the day who found the recipe to live a content, comfortable life….. My parents have a hotel that they own out here, I wouldn’t mind being a janitor and a cook out there, just to help out the staff.



Then maybe when Im done with my shift, get a few drinks, sing karaoke and do this routine at night and sleep contently…well it helps anyways, my demons sometimes attack me because Im schizophrenic. So yeah, I wouldn’t mind being a simple menial worker like a night shift janitor and a cook….because Ive got my pension to assist me and anything after that is complementary.

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Thank you for your service.

I find the content you post to be a little over the top, but thank you for sharing with us your mental health diagnosis , as it makes more sense now.

My cousin, God rest her soul, had schizophrenia. She died way too young. You’re lucky that you have family that can support you in a country that may actually allow you to maintain a stable life with your Air Force pension.

Please make sure you are receiving regular psychiatric and psychological support.
 

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Thank you for your service.

I find the content you post to be a little over the top, but thank you for sharing with us your mental health diagnosis , as it makes more sense now.

My cousin, God rest her soul, had schizophrenia. She died way too young. You’re lucky that you have family that can support you in a country that may actually allow you to maintain a stable life with your Air Force pension.

Please make sure you are receiving regular psychiatric and psychological support.
Yes, I exercise, take my meds, have a few hobbies to keep me stable….and when the demons attack, I turn to my spiritual practice to keep me calm and content.


I always look at it this way, Im a Schizophrenic who found a sense of balance and inner-peace wherever Im at, in The States or abroad. Not only that but land a few dates with a few cute girls and make friends in the process. My advice would help out a stable guy mentally way more, coming from a guy like me because he can do more as a functioning person.


Im no dating expert, but I am a contentment expert in the sense that I know a few thing or two about finding inner peace wherever you are. And I believe I can offer a few tips on that with this forum.

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Yes, I exercise, take my meds, have a few hobbies to keep me stable….and when the demons attack, I turn to my spiritual practice to keep me calm and content.


I always look at it this way, Im a Schizophrenic who found a sense of balance and inner-peace wherever Im at, in The States or abroad. Not only that but land a few dates with a few cute girls and make friends in the process. My advice would help out a stable guy mentally way more, coming from a guy like me because he can do more as a functioning person.


Im no dating expert, but I am a contentment expert in the sense that I know a few thing or two about finding inner peace wherever you are. And I believe I can offer a few tips on that with this forum.

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I appreciate the good vibes and let me offer a couple financial vibes of my own, as someone who has a little bit of background in this. I don’t think the States have much to offer you at a $50,000 pension that is subject to taxes. I think you have a much better shot surrounded by family who own property and can support you including with meaningful work, in your native country, with socialized healthcare, where your dollar will go 90% further and you can save. I would not come back. You have a great opportunity where you are. Better than most. All I would say is that if you don’t have a VA disability rating you should be working on getting one, it’s extra tax free income.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SS does function as something of a support group for men. It's damned near impossible to get anyone to show up for a live SG
 
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