"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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At the end of the day, this is just one Support Group. You should have more.

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One of my daily routines during the day is the following in this order:

1.) Yoga/exercise
2.) Japa meditation- Chanting God’s Holy names
3.) God centered lotus meditations
4.) Reading The Bible or The Bhagavadgita
5.) Praying, Praying for people I know and around the world
6.) Gratitude prayer
7.) Playing acoustic guitar Holy music
8.) Offering that worship session to God
9.) Doing chores around the house
10.) Spray my room with nice smelling air freshener
11.) Get a cup of wine or water
12.) Sit down and enjoy this relaxing, refreshing mood by connecting with support Groups such as this.


I’ll name one Facebook group which I think is cool. It’s called ‘ A group of people that pretends to be a family’, Love the vibe and positivity of that group. It’s from people from all walks of life. And the Groups you go to, shouldn’t be about dating either, it could be a comradery with your careers, hobbies, an illness or depression your suffering from, a habit you’re trying to get rid of etc.


Just going to those Support Groups day by day is a good form of social momentum and a natural way of connecting with others from a technological sense. So these type of things definitely helps.


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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I don't know what parts of the Bible you are reading that are cool with also being Hindu. One religion is monotheistic and the other isn't. I'm not saying which one is right, just that you don't get to be both at the same time.
 

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So you don't have a job?

Because that's important to put this in the right context. If you are retired and living it up in the Philippines, great for you. But most of us in the west will have to work sometimes two jobs and take care of numerous side hustles.

I kinda miss "going to the gym" by the way.

And how do you translate all this into being more attractive and actually coining in on that?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Do you have a job or do you spend all day doing this stuff?

Im retired Air Force…Living off 4 grand a month off my pension. Im thinking of getting a remote job and being a part time writer to write books and novels. Im still waiting for my laptop to get fixed..lol its an HP maybe I should get a new one like a Mac.



Do you have any remote job suggestions for me and where I can find one?

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Do you have a job or do you spend all day doing this stuff?
But you do gotta point, Im a simple man at the end of the day who found the recipe to live a content, comfortable life….. My parents have a hotel that they own out here, I wouldn’t mind being a janitor and a cook out there, just to help out the staff.



Then maybe when Im done with my shift, get a few drinks, sing karaoke and do this routine at night and sleep contently…well it helps anyways, my demons sometimes attack me because Im schizophrenic. So yeah, I wouldn’t mind being a simple menial worker like a night shift janitor and a cook….because Ive got my pension to assist me and anything after that is complementary.

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But you do gotta point, Im a simple man at the end of the day who found the recipe to live a content, comfortable life….. My parents have a hotel that they own out here, I wouldn’t mind being a janitor and a cook out there, just to help out the staff.



Then maybe when Im done with my shift, get a few drinks, sing karaoke and do this routine at night and sleep contently…well it helps anyways, my demons sometimes attack me because Im schizophrenic. So yeah, I wouldn’t mind being a simple menial worker like a night shift janitor and a cook….because Ive got my pension to assist me and anything after that is complementary.

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Thank you for your service.

I find the content you post to be a little over the top, but thank you for sharing with us your mental health diagnosis , as it makes more sense now.

My cousin, God rest her soul, had schizophrenia. She died way too young. You’re lucky that you have family that can support you in a country that may actually allow you to maintain a stable life with your Air Force pension.

Please make sure you are receiving regular psychiatric and psychological support.
 

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Thank you for your service.

I find the content you post to be a little over the top, but thank you for sharing with us your mental health diagnosis , as it makes more sense now.

My cousin, God rest her soul, had schizophrenia. She died way too young. You’re lucky that you have family that can support you in a country that may actually allow you to maintain a stable life with your Air Force pension.

Please make sure you are receiving regular psychiatric and psychological support.
Yes, I exercise, take my meds, have a few hobbies to keep me stable….and when the demons attack, I turn to my spiritual practice to keep me calm and content.


I always look at it this way, Im a Schizophrenic who found a sense of balance and inner-peace wherever Im at, in The States or abroad. Not only that but land a few dates with a few cute girls and make friends in the process. My advice would help out a stable guy mentally way more, coming from a guy like me because he can do more as a functioning person.


Im no dating expert, but I am a contentment expert in the sense that I know a few thing or two about finding inner peace wherever you are. And I believe I can offer a few tips on that with this forum.

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Yes, I exercise, take my meds, have a few hobbies to keep me stable….and when the demons attack, I turn to my spiritual practice to keep me calm and content.


I always look at it this way, Im a Schizophrenic who found a sense of balance and inner-peace wherever Im at, in The States or abroad. Not only that but land a few dates with a few cute girls and make friends in the process. My advice would help out a stable guy mentally way more, coming from a guy like me because he can do more as a functioning person.


Im no dating expert, but I am a contentment expert in the sense that I know a few thing or two about finding inner peace wherever you are. And I believe I can offer a few tips on that with this forum.

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I appreciate the good vibes and let me offer a couple financial vibes of my own, as someone who has a little bit of background in this. I don’t think the States have much to offer you at a $50,000 pension that is subject to taxes. I think you have a much better shot surrounded by family who own property and can support you including with meaningful work, in your native country, with socialized healthcare, where your dollar will go 90% further and you can save. I would not come back. You have a great opportunity where you are. Better than most. All I would say is that if you don’t have a VA disability rating you should be working on getting one, it’s extra tax free income.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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SS does function as something of a support group for men. It's damned near impossible to get anyone to show up for a live SG
 
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