"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Asking out
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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u get her number then u tell her to join u at x at y time and bring z if necessary.
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and then she says yes, and then u say----- wtf do u say then?
GREAT now lets go on a date ? lol
its pretty damn obvious u are asking her out when u ask her to join u alone at so n so.
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ok, never looked at it that way, and it clears up my question
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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Want to bone?
with a check box with YES NO MAYBE
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go to a party? - dont spend whole time with her
do something physical like rollerblading (not rollerskating - thats dumb imho) not biking, rockcliming, hiking,
depends on the chick
jus drinkin at ur place or another.
group events-- (numerous)
-Now I used to do this in highschool and worry about "going out" but to a DJ this shouldn't even matter. Don't worry about the labels of dating, and just do it...besides then ur still good to go for other girls too.
-Now i read here once that a guy is never supposed to ask out the girl to be official. I tried it and it makes a girl's interest increasingly apparent. They pretty much ask how come it isn't official and then if you are cool to have a relationship then its golden.
-My advice to you is to date the girl and have a blast with her and any other girls you come across. If she likes you enough, a third date won't seem needy as she will be excited or happy to get a chance to spend time with you. When and if its time to become an official couple she will let you know, i promise...
Heizen
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I ask a girl to hang out, set up a date from there and go from there. You, or rather I, never ask a girl out bluntly like that.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Mr. Debonaire
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thats the funniest **** i've ever seenOriginally posted by SDFUandDie
pass her a note in class with this on it:
Want to bone?
with a check box with YES NO MAYBE
I'm doing it tommorow lol
skinnydart
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"hey, this is skinnydart, what's up... hey are you free this friday?"
"Uh, yeah, I don't have to work this friday"
"I was thinking we could go to that play?"
"Yeah, that would be cool, so what time would you pick me up?"
'Well, it starts at 7:30, but I was thinking we'd go out and get some dinner before, so say I pick you up at your dorm at 5:00?"
It's not that hard, just let it flow naturally.
Seeing as this is my first post, I dont exactly have any credibility to this post. But dude that was the weakest sh!t Ive ever seen!
This is what you put...
"I was thinking"
"What time would you pick me up?"
"Say I pick you up at your dorm at 5?"
K in my opinion it should have gone
"Hey this is Bussey, How you doing? What are you doing Friday?"
"Uh, yeah, I dont have work this friday"
"Im going to this play... why don't you come?"
"Yeah, that would be cool, so what time you pick me up?"
"Well, the play starts at 7:30, but I'll be hungry before, so I'm going to go out to eat, and if you want a ride, you can come with. Cause I'm not making two trips. So I'll be in my car outside of your rez at 5."
Thats how it shoulda gone... You have too much "Catering to her" in the way you handled it. Still worked, but not the best DJ moves...