Asking out

[Maeisgood]

How do you officially "ask out" a girl without saying something so blunt as "will you go out with me," or something to the effect of that?

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by Maeisgood
How do you officially "ask out" a girl without saying something so blunt as "will you go out with me," or something to the effect of that?

u get her number then u tell her to join u at x at y time and bring z if necessary.

 

[TinyFzzyKiwi]

what's wrong with the "will you go out with me?" isn't straightforward usually better?

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by TinyFzzyKiwi
what's wrong with the "will you go out with me?" isn't straightforward usually better?

and then she says yes, and then u say----- wtf do u say then?
GREAT now lets go on a date ? lol
its pretty damn obvious u are asking her out when u ask her to join u alone at so n so.

 

[TinyFzzyKiwi]

Originally posted by huge_guy_pimpin
and then she says yes, and then u say----- wtf do u say then?
GREAT now lets go on a date ? lol
its pretty damn obvious u are asking her out when u ask her to join u alone at so n so.

ok, never looked at it that way, and it clears up my question

 

[wcknightjr]

My whole dilemma is what to do AFTER you've "hung out" a couple times and you kissed her once. What then? I'm tryin to figure out what to do for the third date without seeming all clingy...

 

[SDFUandDie]

pass her a note in class with this on it:

Want to bone?

with a check box with YES NO MAYBE

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by wcknightjr
My whole dilemma is what to do AFTER you've "hung out" a couple times and you kissed her once. What then? I'm tryin to figure out what to do for the third date without seeming all clingy...

go to a party? - dont spend whole time with her
do something physical like rollerblading (not rollerskating - thats dumb imho) not biking, rockcliming, hiking,
depends on the chick
jus drinkin at ur place or another.
group events-- (numerous)

 

[Garbury]

It seems like you are in a dilemma as you want the girl to be YOUR girlfriend by "going out".

-Now I used to do this in highschool and worry about "going out" but to a DJ this shouldn't even matter. Don't worry about the labels of dating, and just do it...besides then ur still good to go for other girls too.

-Now i read here once that a guy is never supposed to ask out the girl to be official. I tried it and it makes a girl's interest increasingly apparent. They pretty much ask how come it isn't official and then if you are cool to have a relationship then its golden.

-My advice to you is to date the girl and have a blast with her and any other girls you come across. If she likes you enough, a third date won't seem needy as she will be excited or happy to get a chance to spend time with you. When and if its time to become an official couple she will let you know, i promise...

 

[Heizen]

I don't ever ask a girl out now. Asking a girl out puts expectations on the night; if it doesn't seem like a perfect date to her, guess what, it isn't a good night. By asking her to hang out/chill/join me for (Insert here) you put no expectations in her mind for the night.

I ask a girl to hang out, set up a date from there and go from there. You, or rather I, never ask a girl out bluntly like that.

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

Originally posted by SDFUandDie
pass her a note in class with this on it:

Want to bone?

with a check box with YES NO MAYBE

thats the funniest **** i've ever seen

I'm doing it tommorow lol

 

[Maeisgood]

So, basically all you have to do to be officially "going out" is to ask her to do stuff?

 

[skinnydart]

I just called one up a couple hours ago and said...

"hey, this is skinnydart, what's up... hey are you free this friday?"
"Uh, yeah, I don't have to work this friday"
"I was thinking we could go to that play?"
"Yeah, that would be cool, so what time would you pick me up?"
'Well, it starts at 7:30, but I was thinking we'd go out and get some dinner before, so say I pick you up at your dorm at 5:00?"

It's not that hard, just let it flow naturally.

 

[Bussey]

Originally posted by skinnydart
I just called one up a couple hours ago and said...

"hey, this is skinnydart, what's up... hey are you free this friday?"
"Uh, yeah, I don't have to work this friday"
"I was thinking we could go to that play?"
"Yeah, that would be cool, so what time would you pick me up?"
'Well, it starts at 7:30, but I was thinking we'd go out and get some dinner before, so say I pick you up at your dorm at 5:00?"

It's not that hard, just let it flow naturally.

Seeing as this is my first post, I dont exactly have any credibility to this post. But dude that was the weakest sh!t Ive ever seen!
This is what you put...
"I was thinking"
"What time would you pick me up?"
"Say I pick you up at your dorm at 5?"

K in my opinion it should have gone
"Hey this is Bussey, How you doing? What are you doing Friday?"
"Uh, yeah, I dont have work this friday"
"Im going to this play... why don't you come?"
"Yeah, that would be cool, so what time you pick me up?"
"Well, the play starts at 7:30, but I'll be hungry before, so I'm going to go out to eat, and if you want a ride, you can come with. Cause I'm not making two trips. So I'll be in my car outside of your rez at 5."

Thats how it shoulda gone... You have too much "Catering to her" in the way you handled it. Still worked, but not the best DJ moves...