"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Asking if a girl is a virgin.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
whiskerbiskit
Don Juan
you: "so hey, how many boyfriends have you had?"
the question is going to get you the answer without coming across as offensive. it may not give you the exact number of guys who've screwed her but in most cases you can get a rough idea. i've never met a girl who doesn't like to talk about her past relationships.
once your friendship is a tiny bit more intimate whether as friends or dating you can be more blunt:
you: "so how many guys total have you slept with?"
just like that.
wb
The_Unit
Don Juan
further reinforces my belief that sometimes the more you want something, the more you dont get it.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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She's moving way too slow.
oh btw never asked, don't really care.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Docs
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However, you're getting denied for some reason. Time to poke around...figure out why she's not letting you in.
Mind_Body_Soul
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Good luck.
I live in the US.
I think she just has her ASD going... which doesn't surprise me seeing she meets the following criteria:
-I'm almost willing to bet my penis on the fact she's a virgin
-Alot of her friends are prudes. You know the types of girls that've had 0-3 boyfriends and each time they never did anything too sexual (at most maybe given a handjob). So I'm sure she feels she'll be the "***** outcast" if she does anything.
-She may be afraid I'm only in it for sex so she wants to see if I'll wait around (she knows I've banged one of her friends who happened to be my ex, and she knows about how I hooked up with two of her other friends at a party so she knows I'm not a saint).
Her tits are massive and I know sometimes girls are self-concious about having large tits (doesn't make sense to me either). She'll let me grope her ass and feel her tits up outside of her shirt but when I go to move inside of it, I get pulled away.
P.S. Her nipples were rock hard so I know I was turning her on. Next time I make out with her I won't even attempt to go inside of her shirt. Perhaps this will leave her guessing. She's dumb as a rock too if that counts for anything.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Nighthawk said:
And only 16 replies for someone to state the obvious.How bout I answer for the poor b!tch, save some insecure turkey ruining her day.
NO!! and before you ask the next question.. MORE THAN YOU!! Now move on chump and show me what else you got before I dump your ass like yesterdays news.
edit: mind you your going to get a totally different answer, one specifically designed for guys like you but anyway...
" Errr ..are you a virgin? uhuh uhuhh :crazy: ". lol what a knob, I honestly feel sorry for our chicks more and more each day.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.