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Asking a girl to prom

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What do you guys think are good lines?

Standard: Do you want to goto prom with me?
Somewhat DJish: I'd love for you to come to prom with me.
A little more DJish: I really want to goto prom this year. I have alot of girls in mind to ask, but I think your the best one. Would you goto prom with me?

etc. etc.

What you guys think are good lines?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I used this one in all my attempts:

"____________, (her name here) would you give me the pleasure of escorting you to our prom?"

Worked pretty good!
 

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Around here, it seems to be a pretty big deal to make a spectacle out of asking somebody to prom, so here's what I did.

(This girl enjoys fishing)

I took clear jello, mixed it with blue jello, threw some swedish fish in there. When it hardened, i put a lego guy in a boat on top of the jello, with a fishing rod and a fish on the hook. On the sail was a sign saying "I'm fishing for a prom date, will you go with me". I was also dressed in a fisherman outfit, with a fishing rod in my hands.

I left it at my friend's doorstep (I didn't know she was coming) and when she came she picked it up, rang the door, and I opened. Bang, I had my date to prom.
 

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Originally posted by AC/DC
I used this one in all my attempts:

"____________, (her name here) would you give me the pleasure of escorting you to our prom?"

Worked pretty good!
That's pretty slick. I may modify it a bit when I decide on who to take to prom. I'll tell ya guys how it turns out.
 

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Prom is such a big deal? When I read this it reminds me of people wondering how to ask a girl to be your girlfriend. Think up a smooth line and use it.

The fisherman thing was BRILLIANT.

Take example from it. It was creative. Be creative.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Well I mean, it is not like a propasal for marriage, just ask the girl you wanna go with in a confident way and she will probly say yes. Consider your lucky though, Iam not going to mine, girl Iam messin with is trippin, and its late to ask anyone else(which is a week away), so I'll just chill with my bros at a party after the prom. The hand Iam delt so I gotta roll with it. But back on topic, make sure you ask early, but not to early.
 

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Well I went with something simple. I looked her in the eyes, smiled, and then said, " (Name), I want to take you to prom." She smiled and said, "Yes!" :D
 

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Forgot to mention that while I did this I kept eyecontact and had my hands on her waist. :)
 

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that is DJish.... the fisherman thing is not, that is NICE GUYish... good luck being her friend fisherman...
 

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jive, ur gonna get flamed, it worked and thats what counts. Especially you cant go around sayin that is and thats not, dont pigeon hole things, let them be as they are. Say you prefer one to the other, but that the other one is not as useful.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i just called up a girl i knew said hey whats up bla bla "wanna go to prom with me" that seemed to do the job really well.
 

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if you brought her flowers, and asked her that like baout escorting you to prom, that would be awesome


i like the fisherman idea.


Jive, maybe he did just ask a friend. nothing wrong with that. Its like youre expecting your prom date to screw you on prom night and that everyone ends up getting with their dates and going out afterwards.
 

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theres nothing wrong with asking a friend, i asked a friend who has a boyfriend and both of us had a blast
 

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When is your prom? Its getting pretty late to ask her. If your going to ask her just say. "Hey, who are you going to prom with?" Then if she says no-one just ask her if she wants to go with you. One of my friends who is a really good artist drew this big picture of a dog on his arm and had a caption from it's mouth asking if she would go with him. Pretty cool idea.

I went to prom last night, it was a blast. There was a guy that was dressed up as a pirate.
 

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I made my date a fortune cookie. The fortune inside said:
"Confucius say: Happy woman is woman who goes to prom with Al Smith (my name). So, what do you say?"

She said yes, of course, and we had a blast at prom last night. And don't worry, I'm definitely not in the "friend zone."
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
Take example from it. It was creative. Be creative.
how about this...

i was having some problems finding a date (the girl im talking to currently, her parents said she couldnt go)...

my next attempt said yes, then backed out on me...rumors or something...

my last ditch effort (our prom is this coming saturday) i bought a white t-shirt and wrote on it "NEED A PROM DATE, CALL ***-****" my number was where the astericks are.

though i did not get any calls, the two head cheerleaders (one who is dating the star basketball/football player) gave me their numbers and suggested that i call them sometime if i wanted to get together.

i did get a prom date, but i also got numbers of many girls i had pursued before without any luck...

another way of showing that having some balls will definitely work for you...

the punkrock DJ
 

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Jive, maybe he did just ask a friend. nothing wrong with that. Its like youre expecting your prom date to screw you on prom night and that everyone ends up getting with their dates and going out afterwards.

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going with a friend is not DJish at all..... and that fisherman thing was creative, but again was not DJish..... u want creative and DJish, do what i'm doing.....

this girl has been hinting to me she wants to go with me, asking if i have a date yet... etc... anyway, i'm taking her out miniputting this friday, and i made a bet with her, i win and she gives me a massage, she wins, and i'll take her to prom...... its a win-win situation, it makes it seem like i'm not desparate and in a way i am saying "fine, i'll go with u"... and even if i win, which i probly will, i'll still ask her and joke around that its because i feel bad that i kicked her ass at miniput
 

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Originally posted by triple_ultima
I made my date a fortune cookie. The fortune inside said:
"Confucius say: Happy woman is woman who goes to prom with Al Smith (my name). So, what do you say?"

She said yes, of course, and we had a blast at prom last night. And don't worry, I'm definitely not in the "friend zone."
Ok I gotta ask, did you make the cookie by hand or do they sell "make your own fortune cookie" sets? I've got a couple of jokes in mind if they do. :D
 

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Originally posted by jiveturkey
going with a friend is not DJish at all..... and that fisherman thing was creative, but again was not DJish..... u want creative and DJish, do what i'm doing.....

this girl has been hinting to me she wants to go with me, asking if i have a date yet... etc... anyway, i'm taking her out miniputting this friday, and i made a bet with her, i win and she gives me a massage, she wins, and i'll take her to prom...... its a win-win situation, it makes it seem like i'm not desparate and in a way i am saying "fine, i'll go with u"... and even if i win, which i probly will, i'll still ask her and joke around that its because i feel bad that i kicked her ass at miniput
No such thing as DJish, maybe he wanted to go with a friend. Why cant the n00bs ever get this right, the only possible interpretation of a DJ is what you want to be. everyone believes different things and there is no right or wrong path to follow. Going with a friend is what he wanted to do.

Although it is a good sit that your doing, well done
 

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How late is too late to ask?? Mines in like 2 weeks.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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