"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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asking a girl if she's still in contact with her ex

Fela Kuti

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Hello,

Is it ever OK to ask whether a girl you're dating is still in contact with her ex? Say, they broke up only a few months ago and you want to make sure she has completely severed the ties and recovered from the breakup.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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GS750

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I don't think I'd ask...trust your gut and pay attention. If she is still in regular contact with him, then you know you can't take her seriously.
 

dustmuffin

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Don't ask, Don't get attached and just have fun. If something comes up next her.
 

OlympicTim

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Why does it matter? If shes into you it won't matter if she still talks to her ex.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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pyros

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I say its ok to ask.

If she is in contact she will eventually tell you or you will get the feeling anyway.
 
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