RicBoy
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She said something like you just got home from work? it was 8pm. And I said yeah I’m very busy, full booked which was the answer the gave me when I asked her out. Lol
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Asked my boss out
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
RicBoy
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What should I do then ? I need to close the gap between us
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find another job
Everyone in here told you how your best chances are to get with her, your father told you how to, it would have worked out. You went the other way.
I tell you something: This wasn't coincidence. Trust a bit in your decisions. It makes sense.
Resist this urge to submit to her. Stay strong. As I said, it's ok to feel how you feel, just remain respectful to her AND TO YOURSELF.
your obsession with this woman is scary. I haven't read the whole thread but I am sure you have certain ideas about her in your head which are not true. you probably think she is this perfect angel and would make you so happy. she could be a horrible human being outside work. her boobs are probably fake. she could be a whiner. she might suck in bed, no pun intended. I am not judging and I just letting you know what you are doing wrong. I have also made the mistake of getting obsessed with one woman, not a good place to be. waste of time, waste of energy. you need to figure out why you are not talking to other women and solve that problem. there are millions of women out there. millions. if you have approach anxiety just go out and hang around women. don't talk to them, just be in their vicinity and then leave. then next time say hi, then next time say how is it going, slowly overcome your approach anxiety.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
RicBoy
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What’s done is done. I didn’t hear my father lol. What now? How do I act around her and there will be a party I’m going soon where she will be. Plan of action around her? Ignore her for the most part and be cordial when she comes to me or just keep flirting and seduce her?
I suggest that you don't go to the party because you will act like a weirdo and make the situation worse. but at this point I am starting to think this is a troll because nobody can be this thick headed.
It was already said to keep your distance in a respectful way. Ignoring and flirting would both overstep her boundaries she clearly stated to you ( "Hey. It was nice you are interested in me, but now it is getting very uncomfortable. I decided for someone else and that worked out, and I have no further interest in you whatsoever. I hope this doesn't effect our work relationship in a bad way though.").
It is getting frustrating for me to reply to your replies.
I hope you can take a break from all of this in the weekend, get some fresh air and into the nature to get grounded. You have enough information already to draw conclusions, now you can introspect and learn from it or directly continue to pursue this or any other women and repeat this pattern.
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That msg you quoted wasn’t really the msg he sent. But I get you. She said she was in happy relationship which I think it’s a lie maybe a fack buddy at best and she appreciates my courage I guess because she is my boss and I cold approached. And finally she said no hard feelings because I had stated before if she felt uncomfortable I wouldnt have any hard feelings.