RicBoy
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She said something like you just got home from work? it was 8pm. And I said yeah I’m very busy, full booked which was the answer the gave me when I asked her out. Lol
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Asked my boss out
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
RicBoy
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What should I do then ? I need to close the gap between us
Jake_Gyllenhaal69
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find another job
Everyone in here told you how your best chances are to get with her, your father told you how to, it would have worked out. You went the other way.
I tell you something: This wasn't coincidence. Trust a bit in your decisions. It makes sense.
Resist this urge to submit to her. Stay strong. As I said, it's ok to feel how you feel, just remain respectful to her AND TO YOURSELF.
your obsession with this woman is scary. I haven't read the whole thread but I am sure you have certain ideas about her in your head which are not true. you probably think she is this perfect angel and would make you so happy. she could be a horrible human being outside work. her boobs are probably fake. she could be a whiner. she might suck in bed, no pun intended. I am not judging and I just letting you know what you are doing wrong. I have also made the mistake of getting obsessed with one woman, not a good place to be. waste of time, waste of energy. you need to figure out why you are not talking to other women and solve that problem. there are millions of women out there. millions. if you have approach anxiety just go out and hang around women. don't talk to them, just be in their vicinity and then leave. then next time say hi, then next time say how is it going, slowly overcome your approach anxiety.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
RicBoy
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What’s done is done. I didn’t hear my father lol. What now? How do I act around her and there will be a party I’m going soon where she will be. Plan of action around her? Ignore her for the most part and be cordial when she comes to me or just keep flirting and seduce her?
I suggest that you don't go to the party because you will act like a weirdo and make the situation worse. but at this point I am starting to think this is a troll because nobody can be this thick headed.
It was already said to keep your distance in a respectful way. Ignoring and flirting would both overstep her boundaries she clearly stated to you ( "Hey. It was nice you are interested in me, but now it is getting very uncomfortable. I decided for someone else and that worked out, and I have no further interest in you whatsoever. I hope this doesn't effect our work relationship in a bad way though.").
It is getting frustrating for me to reply to your replies.
I hope you can take a break from all of this in the weekend, get some fresh air and into the nature to get grounded. You have enough information already to draw conclusions, now you can introspect and learn from it or directly continue to pursue this or any other women and repeat this pattern.
RicBoy
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That msg you quoted wasn’t really the msg he sent. But I get you. She said she was in happy relationship which I think it’s a lie maybe a fack buddy at best and she appreciates my courage I guess because she is my boss and I cold approached. And finally she said no hard feelings because I had stated before if she felt uncomfortable I wouldnt have any hard feelings.