Asked a girl out, she said she was busy but that we could do a date in a few weeks. The few weeks have now passed, is it worth pursuing by asking her again or is it this answer just translated to "No, I would never go on a date with you"
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Asked girl out, she said she was busy but...
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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As much as I believe it was a form of rejection, it doesnt take much work for you to send her a text or give her a quick call.
If she refuse again with no counteroffer, you got your second strike and you can move on with no further tought about her.
If she refuse again with no counteroffer, you got your second strike and you can move on with no further tought about her.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Why was she busy? If it was a legit excuse, maybe. If not, likely just a way to keep you as a backup in case the guy she is seeing now doesn't work out/committ.
In2theGame
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Once she said that, I would of moved on and deleted her number. A few weeks? thats way too long for a girl who wants to see you. At most a girl who is legit busy would postpone a week IMO.sbgm said:
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She's trying to make you wait for weeks, while she's chasing down that Mississippi State football player. :yes:
A woman who wants to see you will rearrange earth's orbit to make that happen. Would she make Brad Pitt wait a few weeks? Hell no.
Why give her a second chance? That only validates her ego. Drop her sorry ass, she did that to you! Judge nismo's ruling.
Case closed.
A woman who wants to see you will rearrange earth's orbit to make that happen. Would she make Brad Pitt wait a few weeks? Hell no.
Why give her a second chance? That only validates her ego. Drop her sorry ass, she did that to you! Judge nismo's ruling.
Case closed.
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One of the few general rule we should always keep in mind.nismo-4 said:
Btw Nismo, aint you 28 since 2010?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Haha so true. Two schools of thought here:
1) next. Don't pander and get rejected
2) keep trying don't let your ego get in the way, who cares what she thinks
I have found that I next girls a little too quickly. This one girl I dropped over the summer I kind of regret now.
I'm willing to take more chances and swallow my pride because if I dont I end up lonely and bored
1) next. Don't pander and get rejected
2) keep trying don't let your ego get in the way, who cares what she thinks
I have found that I next girls a little too quickly. This one girl I dropped over the summer I kind of regret now.
I'm willing to take more chances and swallow my pride because if I dont I end up lonely and bored
VladPatton
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Chick: We can go out in a few weeks, maybe.
You: Hmmm...ok..I'll call you next year just to be safe!
Dude, that's a 101% rejection. I'd keep it friendly and not bother. If she brings it up, pounce on it, otherwise you'll just become her orbiter waiting for her to decide when to go out. Giving up your power and options before the first date is a horrendous move.
You: Hmmm...ok..I'll call you next year just to be safe!
Dude, that's a 101% rejection. I'd keep it friendly and not bother. If she brings it up, pounce on it, otherwise you'll just become her orbiter waiting for her to decide when to go out. Giving up your power and options before the first date is a horrendous move.