Asked a girl out, she said she was busy but that we could do a date in a few weeks. The few weeks have now passed, is it worth pursuing by asking her again or is it this answer just translated to "No, I would never go on a date with you"
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Asked girl out, she said she was busy but...
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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As much as I believe it was a form of rejection, it doesnt take much work for you to send her a text or give her a quick call.
If she refuse again with no counteroffer, you got your second strike and you can move on with no further tought about her.
If she refuse again with no counteroffer, you got your second strike and you can move on with no further tought about her.
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Why was she busy? If it was a legit excuse, maybe. If not, likely just a way to keep you as a backup in case the guy she is seeing now doesn't work out/committ.
In2theGame
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Once she said that, I would of moved on and deleted her number. A few weeks? thats way too long for a girl who wants to see you. At most a girl who is legit busy would postpone a week IMO.sbgm said:
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She's trying to make you wait for weeks, while she's chasing down that Mississippi State football player. :yes:
A woman who wants to see you will rearrange earth's orbit to make that happen. Would she make Brad Pitt wait a few weeks? Hell no.
Why give her a second chance? That only validates her ego. Drop her sorry ass, she did that to you! Judge nismo's ruling.
Case closed.
A woman who wants to see you will rearrange earth's orbit to make that happen. Would she make Brad Pitt wait a few weeks? Hell no.
Why give her a second chance? That only validates her ego. Drop her sorry ass, she did that to you! Judge nismo's ruling.
Case closed.
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One of the few general rule we should always keep in mind.nismo-4 said:
Btw Nismo, aint you 28 since 2010?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Haha so true. Two schools of thought here:
1) next. Don't pander and get rejected
2) keep trying don't let your ego get in the way, who cares what she thinks
I have found that I next girls a little too quickly. This one girl I dropped over the summer I kind of regret now.
I'm willing to take more chances and swallow my pride because if I dont I end up lonely and bored
1) next. Don't pander and get rejected
2) keep trying don't let your ego get in the way, who cares what she thinks
I have found that I next girls a little too quickly. This one girl I dropped over the summer I kind of regret now.
I'm willing to take more chances and swallow my pride because if I dont I end up lonely and bored
VladPatton
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Chick: We can go out in a few weeks, maybe.
You: Hmmm...ok..I'll call you next year just to be safe!
Dude, that's a 101% rejection. I'd keep it friendly and not bother. If she brings it up, pounce on it, otherwise you'll just become her orbiter waiting for her to decide when to go out. Giving up your power and options before the first date is a horrendous move.
You: Hmmm...ok..I'll call you next year just to be safe!
Dude, that's a 101% rejection. I'd keep it friendly and not bother. If she brings it up, pounce on it, otherwise you'll just become her orbiter waiting for her to decide when to go out. Giving up your power and options before the first date is a horrendous move.