Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's easy to say something, but to walk the talk is hard. If I found out a woman was divorced but claim to be Christian and assuming the husband wasn't a wife beater or criminal, I would lose some respect for her.Yeah, she's divorced, been through 2 boyfriends. She seems to be in "older men" but fvcked a man younger than her. So, she already had sex with 3 minimum guys after her divorce.
THen uses lines like that. "As A Christian Mother" and "I know my value" lines. She is anti vaxxer type
She doesn't use online dating, she doesnt have facebook. She doesn't use online dating because she prefers to meet them in real person.
So, how would you categorize this one? promiscious, virgin mary pretender? quiet slut?
Always thisShe is trying to hide her shameful past.
Do you like this woman? What are your intentions with her?Yeah, she's divorced, been through 2 boyfriends. She seems to be in "older men" but fvcked a man younger than her. So, she already had sex with 3 minimum guys after her divorce.
THen uses lines like that. "As A Christian Mother" and "I know my value" lines. She is anti vaxxer type
She doesn't use online dating, she doesnt have facebook. She doesn't use online dating because she prefers to meet them in real person.
So, how would you categorize this one? promiscious, virgin mary pretender? quiet slut?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Lolz someone regrets taking the death jabYeah, she's divorced, been through 2 boyfriends. She seems to be in "older men" but fvcked a man younger than her. So, she already had sex with 3 minimum guys after her divorce.
THen uses lines like that. "As A Christian Mother" and "I know my value" lines. She is anti vaxxer type
She doesn't use online dating, she doesnt have facebook. She doesn't use online dating because she prefers to meet them in real person.
So, how would you categorize this one? promiscious, virgin mary pretender? quiet slut?
The fact that she outs herself as politically divisive from the start means she's difficult. Especially since she's older. Same concept for the crazy eyed blue hair feminazis. You have to "match her energy" exactly and even then she's coming from an avoidant place. But that being said OP, if you're that strongly pro-vax you might be better off with the blue hair crowd. The normies will sniff this out and be turned off, the pandemic is long over with.Trump supporter older female. What is your first impression when you hear this
Disagree, imo it's more of a troll job. She can be these things without the early frame announcement (EFA) that it's "my way or the highway".I think it's similar to when a girl's bio say "not here for hookups", but comes over to **** you after a day or 2 of texting. Though she wanted to have some type of relationship with me afterwards...
She probably actually does value religion and values, and may be open to getting to know someone who shares the same. It's maybe like a pre-screening, to immediately filter out anyone who would be turned off by her interest, kinda weeding them out. Anyone that stays along means they could share similar mentalities, and she'll be more open to getting to know them and even hooking up, if you aren't faking it.
Idk, I think she sounds a little hurt and lonely, probably feels used from those past men, or just regrets her choices with them.So what's you guys verdict on an older woman like this? She's a latina who dyes her hair blonde btw.
Secret Slut? Doesn't sleep around much? 2 d1cks 1 hole?
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
There's nothing wrong with having a political orientation and being feminine wanting a masculine man, but ime the more upfront and divisive they are about it, the more difficult they will be. The stronger bio text in this regard, the stronger the resting b1tch face. In this case it's coming from a place of avoidance.You never know what stuff like this means. The two women I know that are Trump supporters and would say things like this understand what men want out of a woman. They want masculine men, and they want to be feminine women. They realize that is rare thats why they say they have value.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.