MatureDJ
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I would say two reasons.Why don't they just pay for it?
Man needs to take responsibility for self.Blame feminism for this; they wanted men to be asexual beings
When you complain about something around 2-3 times and don't take action on it you start putting yourself in "victim mindset" ( woe is me ). "Victim mindset" is useful for nothing at all but staying stuck in a position you don't want to be in.They can have sex. They choose to not put any effort into making themselves into a man women want to have sex with.
Men are not victims. These ridiculous posts making men out to be these wimpy, "woe is me" victims are everything that is wrong with men in society these days.
We control out destiny.
Maybe they should get over themselves and realize they're just a utility. Sad but true.They want a girl that genuinely likes them
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
RichardMaybe they should get over themselves and realize they're just a utility. Sad but true.
Relying on prostitute means you can't get sex without cash.Can't have sex = no prostitutes.
Prostitution is natural.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This article just pushes the orthodox line of the 'normalization' of sex. But imagine you were a more sensitive soul [a teenager?] that refused to look at life through a set of banal spectacles, and saw something more significant in sex. And then in associating 'incels' in the article [wow, there is a word for it] with potential mass murderers, it all starts to look a bit nasty... that people who are not engaging in casual sex are weirdos.... or losers.But try to imagine what it would be like if, for whatever reason, those more gratifying moments never arrived. Imagine that, while everyone else your age appears to have figured out love and dating and sex, you stayed more or less stuck in time as a psychosexual teenager. Imagine, say, being in a movie theater in 2005, listening to the audience erupt in laughter at the preview for The 40-Year-Old Virgin. Imagine what Top 40 radio sounds like. Imagine reading on the dating website Match.com that 42 percent of users (33 percent of the men, 51 of the women) indicated they would not date a virgin.
Victim mode is weak. If man takes women away from the epicenter of his life he can be successful and be happy with no to minimum women . Be on your purpose. Complaining about feminism even if it's reality is weak . What are you going to do about it?Yes, all this 'victimhood', whether first order [feminism] or second order [reaction to feminism] is built on the premise that I deserve to be happy [lacking here is any expression of gratitude and piety]. People simply do not understand that life is suffering [thanks to ideology], and the whole point of culture is to overcome this suffering. It really is a sad state of affairs.
With hot girls?.Relying on prostitute means you can't get sex without cash.
Hot girls have some regular dudes that's part of their social circle that hits it. Stop putting them hoez on a pedastal. They are flesh and blood like you .With hot girls?.
That's most people
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.