"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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article: The 5 Years That Changed Dating

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Another stupid article that gives men (boys) another excuse.
 

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Like BigDave said, it is too hard to meet women in real life and unfortunately apps and online dating have become a trend. Which means if you cant succeed online to meet women you are basically doomed as cold approaching is too low value in today's social climate, it is inappropriate to meet women at work, and social circle options may be too limited to find someone compatable or decent. People are so disconnected that their minds are in cyberspace that nobody is really there. The classic example of a tinder date talking to 3 other tinder dudes while in the bathroom was a good example.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Like BigDave said, it is too hard to meet women in real life and unfortunately apps and online dating have become a trend. Which means if you cant succeed online to meet women you are basically doomed as cold approaching is too low value in today's social climate, it is inappropriate to meet women at work, and social circle options may be too limited to find someone compatable or decent. People are so disconnected that their minds are in cyberspace that nobody is really there. The classic example of a tinder date talking to 3 other tinder dudes while in the bathroom was a good example.
The article notes that in the current political climate, dating co-workers is all but verboten. And who has ever heard of some decent-looking young woman who doesn't have any dates having her friends/family trying to set her up? That was very common in the 50s, possibly even into the 70s. Hypergamy has killed that social meme.
 

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Like BigDave said, it is too hard to meet women in real life and unfortunately apps and online dating have become a trend. Which means if you cant succeed online to meet women you are basically doomed as cold approaching is too low value in today's social climate, it is inappropriate to meet women at work, and social circle options may be too limited to find someone compatable or decent. People are so disconnected that their minds are in cyberspace that nobody is really there. The classic example of a tinder date talking to 3 other tinder dudes while in the bathroom was a good example.
Its inappropriate but the work sex adventures are fully alive for women.
 

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The article notes that in the current political climate, dating co-workers is all but verboten. And who has ever heard of some decent-looking young woman who doesn't have any dates having her friends/family trying to set her up? That was very common in the 50s, possibly even into the 70s. Hypergamy has killed that social meme.
Again, it's interesting that a BLEAK picture is painted from women's experience in online dating, not men's experience with online dating.

The article portrays women wasting their time with lots of guys that ends up as dead-ends or going nowhere for them, or boring or uninteresting dates that they see it as a boring second job. If the joy is sucked out of it for them then they are not happy campers even if they have all of these skewed unlimited options or hyper-gamy as you are saying. On the other hand, if you don't have many options online, I still think you can derive joy from the fact that you are at least trying something, and are not wasting that much time out of your own life and will likely find any date to be a joyful occasion since they are more rare. Depending on what lens you are looking at this, having many options, where the joy is sucked out and it's like a second job, could be worst than having none at all or few when each dating experience is always fresh like you are a teenager. Just an interesting thought I guess.
 
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