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The Five Years That Changed Dating
When Tinder became available to all smartphone users in 2013, it ushered in a new era in the history of romance.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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Another stupid article that gives men (boys) another excuse.
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Like BigDave said, it is too hard to meet women in real life and unfortunately apps and online dating have become a trend. Which means if you cant succeed online to meet women you are basically doomed as cold approaching is too low value in today's social climate, it is inappropriate to meet women at work, and social circle options may be too limited to find someone compatable or decent. People are so disconnected that their minds are in cyberspace that nobody is really there. The classic example of a tinder date talking to 3 other tinder dudes while in the bathroom was a good example.The Five Years That Changed Dating
When Tinder became available to all smartphone users in 2013, it ushered in a new era in the history of romance.www.theatlantic.com
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How do you figure that? Did you even read this article?
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I thought you the type to not read these long articles that I post.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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The article notes that in the current political climate, dating co-workers is all but verboten. And who has ever heard of some decent-looking young woman who doesn't have any dates having her friends/family trying to set her up? That was very common in the 50s, possibly even into the 70s. Hypergamy has killed that social meme.
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Its inappropriate but the work sex adventures are fully alive for women.
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It depends on the type of article.I thought you the type to not read these long articles that I post.
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Again, it's interesting that a BLEAK picture is painted from women's experience in online dating, not men's experience with online dating.
The article portrays women wasting their time with lots of guys that ends up as dead-ends or going nowhere for them, or boring or uninteresting dates that they see it as a boring second job. If the joy is sucked out of it for them then they are not happy campers even if they have all of these skewed unlimited options or hyper-gamy as you are saying. On the other hand, if you don't have many options online, I still think you can derive joy from the fact that you are at least trying something, and are not wasting that much time out of your own life and will likely find any date to be a joyful occasion since they are more rare. Depending on what lens you are looking at this, having many options, where the joy is sucked out and it's like a second job, could be worst than having none at all or few when each dating experience is always fresh like you are a teenager. Just an interesting thought I guess.