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The Five Years That Changed Dating
When Tinder became available to all smartphone users in 2013, it ushered in a new era in the history of romance.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Another stupid article that gives men (boys) another excuse.
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Like BigDave said, it is too hard to meet women in real life and unfortunately apps and online dating have become a trend. Which means if you cant succeed online to meet women you are basically doomed as cold approaching is too low value in today's social climate, it is inappropriate to meet women at work, and social circle options may be too limited to find someone compatable or decent. People are so disconnected that their minds are in cyberspace that nobody is really there. The classic example of a tinder date talking to 3 other tinder dudes while in the bathroom was a good example.The Five Years That Changed Dating
When Tinder became available to all smartphone users in 2013, it ushered in a new era in the history of romance.www.theatlantic.com
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How do you figure that? Did you even read this article?
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I thought you the type to not read these long articles that I post.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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The article notes that in the current political climate, dating co-workers is all but verboten. And who has ever heard of some decent-looking young woman who doesn't have any dates having her friends/family trying to set her up? That was very common in the 50s, possibly even into the 70s. Hypergamy has killed that social meme.
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Its inappropriate but the work sex adventures are fully alive for women.
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It depends on the type of article.I thought you the type to not read these long articles that I post.
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Again, it's interesting that a BLEAK picture is painted from women's experience in online dating, not men's experience with online dating.
The article portrays women wasting their time with lots of guys that ends up as dead-ends or going nowhere for them, or boring or uninteresting dates that they see it as a boring second job. If the joy is sucked out of it for them then they are not happy campers even if they have all of these skewed unlimited options or hyper-gamy as you are saying. On the other hand, if you don't have many options online, I still think you can derive joy from the fact that you are at least trying something, and are not wasting that much time out of your own life and will likely find any date to be a joyful occasion since they are more rare. Depending on what lens you are looking at this, having many options, where the joy is sucked out and it's like a second job, could be worst than having none at all or few when each dating experience is always fresh like you are a teenager. Just an interesting thought I guess.