MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I know of quite a few women who want to have sex with me, but they’re fat.
Obviously due to everyone over inflating their value due to social media . It's not good for a man to go greater than 3 weeks without sex .Never married people have sex 60-80 times a year?? I have sex two times a year lol
Most of it is my fault though. I know of quite a few women who want to have sex with me, but they’re fat. It would be fair to them because I wouldn’t be able to have sex with them. I’m willing to hold out for months on end for a hottie than just bang any HB 4 that crosses my way. Maybe that’s why people are having less sex?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Women have easier access to NON sexual attention, thus making it harder for man to get sexual attention .I think their data is flawed. I also think many women, regardless of age, do not "need" sex as much as men. They get their validation and gratification through talking and conversing with people. Hence women value a man's non-sexual attention more than his sexual attention. Women instinctively know they can have sex at a drop of a hat, so it's not important or challenging enough for them. However, getting a man to actually give them his non-sexual attention is more gratifying for them.
I haven’t had 60 sessions in my entire life. Maybe 30ish lol.Never married people have sex 60-80 times a year?? I have sex two times a year lol
Dude... In some of my relationship I had 60+ sessions in a month.I haven’t had 60 sessions in my entire life. Maybe 30ish lol.
Let's not forget being a *****, a attention *****, social media, and a variety of things.I think their data is flawed. I also think many women, regardless of age, do not "need" sex as much as men. They get their validation and gratification through talking and conversing with people. Hence women value a man's non-sexual attention more than his sexual attention. Women instinctively know they can have sex at a drop of a hat, so it's not important or challenging enough for them. However, getting a man to actually give them his non-sexual attention is more gratifying for them.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah that’s what I was thinking. Thus spike in 2009 does seen like it is smartphone/social media related.imo its all social media and tinder fault
Sad, but true. These dating apps have given so much power to one gender. Even I, have disabled all my apps. I've accepted it and waive the proverbial white flag in online dating. Online dating now is nothing like it was last decade. The quality on both sides probably has suffered as well. No sense in beating a dead horse.imo its all social media and tinder fault
i mean you can still use it in your favor if you get extremaly ripped, but yeah the amount of entitlement and rude chicks who are not even hot is horrifyingSad, but true. These dating apps have given so much power to one gender. Even I, have disabled all my apps. I've accepted it and waive the proverbial white flag in online dating. Online dating now is nothing like it was last decade. The quality on both sides probably has suffered as well. No sense in beating a dead horse.
Waste of time. Maybe I hit a dead zone or because it's summer time. It's been hit or miss for me since May. Last year this time, I had a few women in the loop. Now, mostly ghosters. I had several in Bumble and Match want to meet up, then just ghosted; but they still look at my profile. So, I just hide it for a minute. I'll come back in Sept. Q4 and around Feb. is where I do really well.i mean you can still use it in your favor if you get extremaly ripped, but yeah the amount of entitlement and rude chicks who are not even hot is horrifying
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yea, but that doesn't last. We all fvck like jack rabbits in the beginning, that's the pinnacle in relationships; it just goes down from there; sexually.Dude... In some of my relationship I had 60+ sessions in a month.
That's about right. A masculine man would be having sex .Male sexlessness is rising but for what reasons....you can't deny the fact that men are also more feminized than previous generations.
The most masculine men on this forum don't seem to be having any problems.
That one lady we fvcked at least once a day for 6 years.Yea, but that doesn't last. We all fvck like jack rabbits in the beginning, that's the pinnacle in relationships; it just goes down from there; sexually.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.