MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I know of quite a few women who want to have sex with me, but they’re fat.
Obviously due to everyone over inflating their value due to social media . It's not good for a man to go greater than 3 weeks without sex .Never married people have sex 60-80 times a year?? I have sex two times a year lol
Most of it is my fault though. I know of quite a few women who want to have sex with me, but they’re fat. It would be fair to them because I wouldn’t be able to have sex with them. I’m willing to hold out for months on end for a hottie than just bang any HB 4 that crosses my way. Maybe that’s why people are having less sex?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Women have easier access to NON sexual attention, thus making it harder for man to get sexual attention .I think their data is flawed. I also think many women, regardless of age, do not "need" sex as much as men. They get their validation and gratification through talking and conversing with people. Hence women value a man's non-sexual attention more than his sexual attention. Women instinctively know they can have sex at a drop of a hat, so it's not important or challenging enough for them. However, getting a man to actually give them his non-sexual attention is more gratifying for them.
I haven’t had 60 sessions in my entire life. Maybe 30ish lol.Never married people have sex 60-80 times a year?? I have sex two times a year lol
Dude... In some of my relationship I had 60+ sessions in a month.I haven’t had 60 sessions in my entire life. Maybe 30ish lol.
Let's not forget being a *****, a attention *****, social media, and a variety of things.I think their data is flawed. I also think many women, regardless of age, do not "need" sex as much as men. They get their validation and gratification through talking and conversing with people. Hence women value a man's non-sexual attention more than his sexual attention. Women instinctively know they can have sex at a drop of a hat, so it's not important or challenging enough for them. However, getting a man to actually give them his non-sexual attention is more gratifying for them.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Yeah that’s what I was thinking. Thus spike in 2009 does seen like it is smartphone/social media related.imo its all social media and tinder fault
Sad, but true. These dating apps have given so much power to one gender. Even I, have disabled all my apps. I've accepted it and waive the proverbial white flag in online dating. Online dating now is nothing like it was last decade. The quality on both sides probably has suffered as well. No sense in beating a dead horse.imo its all social media and tinder fault
i mean you can still use it in your favor if you get extremaly ripped, but yeah the amount of entitlement and rude chicks who are not even hot is horrifyingSad, but true. These dating apps have given so much power to one gender. Even I, have disabled all my apps. I've accepted it and waive the proverbial white flag in online dating. Online dating now is nothing like it was last decade. The quality on both sides probably has suffered as well. No sense in beating a dead horse.
Waste of time. Maybe I hit a dead zone or because it's summer time. It's been hit or miss for me since May. Last year this time, I had a few women in the loop. Now, mostly ghosters. I had several in Bumble and Match want to meet up, then just ghosted; but they still look at my profile. So, I just hide it for a minute. I'll come back in Sept. Q4 and around Feb. is where I do really well.i mean you can still use it in your favor if you get extremaly ripped, but yeah the amount of entitlement and rude chicks who are not even hot is horrifying
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yea, but that doesn't last. We all fvck like jack rabbits in the beginning, that's the pinnacle in relationships; it just goes down from there; sexually.Dude... In some of my relationship I had 60+ sessions in a month.
That's about right. A masculine man would be having sex .Male sexlessness is rising but for what reasons....you can't deny the fact that men are also more feminized than previous generations.
The most masculine men on this forum don't seem to be having any problems.
That one lady we fvcked at least once a day for 6 years.Yea, but that doesn't last. We all fvck like jack rabbits in the beginning, that's the pinnacle in relationships; it just goes down from there; sexually.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.