MatureDJ
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I know of quite a few women who want to have sex with me, but they’re fat.
Obviously due to everyone over inflating their value due to social media . It's not good for a man to go greater than 3 weeks without sex .Never married people have sex 60-80 times a year?? I have sex two times a year lol
Most of it is my fault though. I know of quite a few women who want to have sex with me, but they’re fat. It would be fair to them because I wouldn’t be able to have sex with them. I’m willing to hold out for months on end for a hottie than just bang any HB 4 that crosses my way. Maybe that’s why people are having less sex?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Women have easier access to NON sexual attention, thus making it harder for man to get sexual attention .I think their data is flawed. I also think many women, regardless of age, do not "need" sex as much as men. They get their validation and gratification through talking and conversing with people. Hence women value a man's non-sexual attention more than his sexual attention. Women instinctively know they can have sex at a drop of a hat, so it's not important or challenging enough for them. However, getting a man to actually give them his non-sexual attention is more gratifying for them.
I haven’t had 60 sessions in my entire life. Maybe 30ish lol.Never married people have sex 60-80 times a year?? I have sex two times a year lol
Dude... In some of my relationship I had 60+ sessions in a month.I haven’t had 60 sessions in my entire life. Maybe 30ish lol.
Let's not forget being a *****, a attention *****, social media, and a variety of things.I think their data is flawed. I also think many women, regardless of age, do not "need" sex as much as men. They get their validation and gratification through talking and conversing with people. Hence women value a man's non-sexual attention more than his sexual attention. Women instinctively know they can have sex at a drop of a hat, so it's not important or challenging enough for them. However, getting a man to actually give them his non-sexual attention is more gratifying for them.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah that’s what I was thinking. Thus spike in 2009 does seen like it is smartphone/social media related.imo its all social media and tinder fault
Sad, but true. These dating apps have given so much power to one gender. Even I, have disabled all my apps. I've accepted it and waive the proverbial white flag in online dating. Online dating now is nothing like it was last decade. The quality on both sides probably has suffered as well. No sense in beating a dead horse.imo its all social media and tinder fault
i mean you can still use it in your favor if you get extremaly ripped, but yeah the amount of entitlement and rude chicks who are not even hot is horrifyingSad, but true. These dating apps have given so much power to one gender. Even I, have disabled all my apps. I've accepted it and waive the proverbial white flag in online dating. Online dating now is nothing like it was last decade. The quality on both sides probably has suffered as well. No sense in beating a dead horse.
Waste of time. Maybe I hit a dead zone or because it's summer time. It's been hit or miss for me since May. Last year this time, I had a few women in the loop. Now, mostly ghosters. I had several in Bumble and Match want to meet up, then just ghosted; but they still look at my profile. So, I just hide it for a minute. I'll come back in Sept. Q4 and around Feb. is where I do really well.i mean you can still use it in your favor if you get extremaly ripped, but yeah the amount of entitlement and rude chicks who are not even hot is horrifying
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yea, but that doesn't last. We all fvck like jack rabbits in the beginning, that's the pinnacle in relationships; it just goes down from there; sexually.Dude... In some of my relationship I had 60+ sessions in a month.
That's about right. A masculine man would be having sex .Male sexlessness is rising but for what reasons....you can't deny the fact that men are also more feminized than previous generations.
The most masculine men on this forum don't seem to be having any problems.
That one lady we fvcked at least once a day for 6 years.Yea, but that doesn't last. We all fvck like jack rabbits in the beginning, that's the pinnacle in relationships; it just goes down from there; sexually.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.