MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
All I see is a bunch of complaining. Also people crying over females being hoez.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I have recently been pondering this. Humans, as for any animal, are endowed with biological imperatives and the instincts & emotions that have evolved along with it. Earlier men figured out that because of humans' need to care for & raise the young, the female sexual imperative had to be tamed, which it was via the strong cultural more of marriage as pre-selected by the parents. This has obviously served to forward the symbiosis of man's biological imperative and society's development. However, femyninism has in large part destroyed this cultural symbiosis, and thus society will continue on as per this femynism but also the biological imperative. The most important imperative is that men seek to have sex, and when sex is not forthcoming they get belligerent, which is why we have the pillars of society spending their youth in destructive ways, men that can be seduced into thinking that killing thousands of people will result in "72 virgins", and Supreme Gentlemen who are spurned by women to go on murderous rampages. About the only good thing that society has been doing to ameliorate this is the explosion in internet p0rn, and the eventual development of sexbots.I just consider things in terms of an all-around quality of life. And I don't consider the quality of life to be very good. That's an understatement
Consider the quality of life afforded to the generation of hippies that pissed it all away: vibrant communities, amazingly low housing costs, solid family unit, completely free university and amazing quality of education, a job for life, good local and national democratic representation, etc etc.
It's seriously amazing what has happened. They've created a society that doubtfully can even sustain itself for a century.
About the only good thing that society has been doing to ameliorate this is the explosion in internet p0rn, and the eventual development of sexbots.
not much for control and more for, if she didn't she would be alone, and her clock is ticking, and after having kids she had to hold her hubby if not no men of respect would waste time with her, in the end is not about control only, is men not having standards and being a man, today a lot of guys would date and marry a woman with someone else kid, less then a decate no man would waste time in inviting someone like that to his family and householdI have recently been pondering this. Humans, as for any animal, are endowed with biological imperatives and the instincts & emotions that have evolved along with it. Earlier men figured out that because of humans' need to care for & raise the young, the female sexual imperative had to be tamed, which it was via the strong cultural more of marriage as pre-selected by the parents. This has obviously served to forward the symbiosis of man's biological imperative and society's development. However, femyninism has in large part destroyed this cultural symbiosis, and thus society will continue on as per this femynism but also the biological imperative. The most important imperative is that men seek to have sex, and when sex is not forthcoming they get belligerent, which is why we have the pillars of society spending their youth in destructive ways, men that can be seduced into thinking that killing thousands of people will result in "72 virgins", and Supreme Gentlemen who are spurned by women to go on murderous rampages. About the only good thing that society has been doing to ameliorate this is the explosion in internet p0rn, and the eventual development of sexbots.
They are only complaining because no females are being ho's with them. If they were part of their "ho" circle they would be happy.All I see is a bunch of complaining. Also people crying over females being hoez.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
All you have are black pills but no practical strategies to change things. What are you doing in your own life to improve for the better?
the best thing you can do is to make them earn, I mean really earn your exclusivity. Never combine your finances and have a strict, very strict, pre-nup that includes kids before you would ever even consider getting married. If she chases you, takes care of you, satisfies you, signs any document you want, should be enough of a sign that she's down for you.All you have are black pills but no practical strategies to change things. What are you doing in your own life to improve for the better?
LOL, and then they become sentient and/or hacked. I don't even want to write about the outcome of either.
Well said. I was just pointing out that maturedj only points out what's wrong with the world, but never offers any feedback on how he is improving HIMSELF. Here is one thread:the best thing you can do is to make them earn, I mean really earn your exclusivity. Never combine your finances and have a strict, very strict, pre-nup that includes kids before you would ever even consider getting married. If she chases you, takes care of you, satisfies you, signs any document you want, should be enough of a sign that she's down for you.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
I'm tired of complainingThat's not true at all :/
Some of us look for the next lay whilst Rome burns. Some do pushups whilst Rome burns. etc.
The other day, a friend suggested we go swimming or something. Don't know what came over him.
All kinds of crazy sh1t going on.
Ho circle?They are only complaining because no females are being ho's with them. If they were part of their "ho" circle they would be happy.
I can't even read the red pill blogs and sites anymore.. To negative.All I see is a bunch of complaining. Also people crying over females being hoez.
Thats what i was saying. We need to live and be happy. If female is stealing your energy and joy next her. You cant focus on rhe negative aspects daily and be happy.I can't even read the red pill blogs and sites anymore.. To negative.
That's because they're actually black pill sites. Of course there is overlap but the red pill should offer the full range of facts: both positive and negative aspects of reality. Feminism leads to role confusion true as well as lots of other objectively negative outcomes (black pills) but debunking the gender equality myth should give confidence as a man (red pill).I can't even read the red pill blogs and sites anymore.. To negative.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.