"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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arrogant or ****y/confident comment?

Dole

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I am was txting with my gf. The topic was how she wishes I was with her at the moment ( I was over last night and I am busy so I couldn't go see her). these were our last 3 text messages
me: you just care about me that's all
her: I do hey!! Hmm I suppose your right.
me: I am rarely wrong
She didn't reply anything back to that txt, was the text arrogant or too ****y/confident?
What's the border line between arrogant and ****y/confident?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MotownMack

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I think you're worrying about this a little too much, BUT...

You've successfully illustrated when texting becomes a bad thing (an oft repeated mantra around here)

1) C/F over text is risky. It can be taken wrong and you can't gauge a reaction to see if the C/F went wrong (it sometimes does).

2) You've decided in your mind that her lack of response to the text is bad thing, when the real reason for her lack of response could be a million and one things (she could have fallen asleep, be eating, masturbating over your hotness?). And now you're left feeling AFC.

As long as you haven't been completely over doing the C/F (in which case, it will get old), what you said could not have possibly offended her. Don't worry about it.
 

Dole

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Thank you. Good point on risky over text since you can't see there reaction.
 

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ay... pssssss. in the context of building attraction, there's no such thing as ****y/confident or ****y/arrogant

it's ****y FUNNY, and somehow you made the noob mistake of replacing funny with something else

is "I'm rarely wrong" funny? no
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I said it before and I'll say it again, C/F should be considered advanced skills because more often than not guys use it to their detriment when interacting with women.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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schttrj said:
its def rudely arrogant.... try to understand that we tend to be with someone whom we enjoy being with. if she is not enjoying, any technique is futile.
The thing that makes it extremely ironic is that even though the concept is called "****y/funny" it is seldom funny when it's done incorrectly.
 
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