Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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arrogant or ****y/confident comment?

Dole

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I am was txting with my gf. The topic was how she wishes I was with her at the moment ( I was over last night and I am busy so I couldn't go see her). these were our last 3 text messages
me: you just care about me that's all
her: I do hey!! Hmm I suppose your right.
me: I am rarely wrong
She didn't reply anything back to that txt, was the text arrogant or too ****y/confident?
What's the border line between arrogant and ****y/confident?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MotownMack

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I think you're worrying about this a little too much, BUT...

You've successfully illustrated when texting becomes a bad thing (an oft repeated mantra around here)

1) C/F over text is risky. It can be taken wrong and you can't gauge a reaction to see if the C/F went wrong (it sometimes does).

2) You've decided in your mind that her lack of response to the text is bad thing, when the real reason for her lack of response could be a million and one things (she could have fallen asleep, be eating, masturbating over your hotness?). And now you're left feeling AFC.

As long as you haven't been completely over doing the C/F (in which case, it will get old), what you said could not have possibly offended her. Don't worry about it.
 

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Thank you. Good point on risky over text since you can't see there reaction.
 

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ay... pssssss. in the context of building attraction, there's no such thing as ****y/confident or ****y/arrogant

it's ****y FUNNY, and somehow you made the noob mistake of replacing funny with something else

is "I'm rarely wrong" funny? no
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I said it before and I'll say it again, C/F should be considered advanced skills because more often than not guys use it to their detriment when interacting with women.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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schttrj said:
its def rudely arrogant.... try to understand that we tend to be with someone whom we enjoy being with. if she is not enjoying, any technique is futile.
The thing that makes it extremely ironic is that even though the concept is called "****y/funny" it is seldom funny when it's done incorrectly.
 
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