"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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arrogant or ****y/confident comment?

Dole

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I am was txting with my gf. The topic was how she wishes I was with her at the moment ( I was over last night and I am busy so I couldn't go see her). these were our last 3 text messages
me: you just care about me that's all
her: I do hey!! Hmm I suppose your right.
me: I am rarely wrong
She didn't reply anything back to that txt, was the text arrogant or too ****y/confident?
What's the border line between arrogant and ****y/confident?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think you're worrying about this a little too much, BUT...

You've successfully illustrated when texting becomes a bad thing (an oft repeated mantra around here)

1) C/F over text is risky. It can be taken wrong and you can't gauge a reaction to see if the C/F went wrong (it sometimes does).

2) You've decided in your mind that her lack of response to the text is bad thing, when the real reason for her lack of response could be a million and one things (she could have fallen asleep, be eating, masturbating over your hotness?). And now you're left feeling AFC.

As long as you haven't been completely over doing the C/F (in which case, it will get old), what you said could not have possibly offended her. Don't worry about it.
 

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Thank you. Good point on risky over text since you can't see there reaction.
 

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ay... pssssss. in the context of building attraction, there's no such thing as ****y/confident or ****y/arrogant

it's ****y FUNNY, and somehow you made the noob mistake of replacing funny with something else

is "I'm rarely wrong" funny? no
 

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I said it before and I'll say it again, C/F should be considered advanced skills because more often than not guys use it to their detriment when interacting with women.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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schttrj said:
its def rudely arrogant.... try to understand that we tend to be with someone whom we enjoy being with. if she is not enjoying, any technique is futile.
The thing that makes it extremely ironic is that even though the concept is called "****y/funny" it is seldom funny when it's done incorrectly.
 
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