"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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arrogant or ****y/confident comment?

Dole

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I am was txting with my gf. The topic was how she wishes I was with her at the moment ( I was over last night and I am busy so I couldn't go see her). these were our last 3 text messages
me: you just care about me that's all
her: I do hey!! Hmm I suppose your right.
me: I am rarely wrong
She didn't reply anything back to that txt, was the text arrogant or too ****y/confident?
What's the border line between arrogant and ****y/confident?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I think you're worrying about this a little too much, BUT...

You've successfully illustrated when texting becomes a bad thing (an oft repeated mantra around here)

1) C/F over text is risky. It can be taken wrong and you can't gauge a reaction to see if the C/F went wrong (it sometimes does).

2) You've decided in your mind that her lack of response to the text is bad thing, when the real reason for her lack of response could be a million and one things (she could have fallen asleep, be eating, masturbating over your hotness?). And now you're left feeling AFC.

As long as you haven't been completely over doing the C/F (in which case, it will get old), what you said could not have possibly offended her. Don't worry about it.
 

Dole

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Thank you. Good point on risky over text since you can't see there reaction.
 

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ay... pssssss. in the context of building attraction, there's no such thing as ****y/confident or ****y/arrogant

it's ****y FUNNY, and somehow you made the noob mistake of replacing funny with something else

is "I'm rarely wrong" funny? no
 

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I said it before and I'll say it again, C/F should be considered advanced skills because more often than not guys use it to their detriment when interacting with women.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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schttrj said:
its def rudely arrogant.... try to understand that we tend to be with someone whom we enjoy being with. if she is not enjoying, any technique is futile.
The thing that makes it extremely ironic is that even though the concept is called "****y/funny" it is seldom funny when it's done incorrectly.
 
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