"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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arrogant or ****y/confident comment?

Dole

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I am was txting with my gf. The topic was how she wishes I was with her at the moment ( I was over last night and I am busy so I couldn't go see her). these were our last 3 text messages
me: you just care about me that's all
her: I do hey!! Hmm I suppose your right.
me: I am rarely wrong
She didn't reply anything back to that txt, was the text arrogant or too ****y/confident?
What's the border line between arrogant and ****y/confident?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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MotownMack

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I think you're worrying about this a little too much, BUT...

You've successfully illustrated when texting becomes a bad thing (an oft repeated mantra around here)

1) C/F over text is risky. It can be taken wrong and you can't gauge a reaction to see if the C/F went wrong (it sometimes does).

2) You've decided in your mind that her lack of response to the text is bad thing, when the real reason for her lack of response could be a million and one things (she could have fallen asleep, be eating, masturbating over your hotness?). And now you're left feeling AFC.

As long as you haven't been completely over doing the C/F (in which case, it will get old), what you said could not have possibly offended her. Don't worry about it.
 

Dole

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Thank you. Good point on risky over text since you can't see there reaction.
 

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ay... pssssss. in the context of building attraction, there's no such thing as ****y/confident or ****y/arrogant

it's ****y FUNNY, and somehow you made the noob mistake of replacing funny with something else

is "I'm rarely wrong" funny? no
 

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I said it before and I'll say it again, C/F should be considered advanced skills because more often than not guys use it to their detriment when interacting with women.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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schttrj said:
its def rudely arrogant.... try to understand that we tend to be with someone whom we enjoy being with. if she is not enjoying, any technique is futile.
The thing that makes it extremely ironic is that even though the concept is called "****y/funny" it is seldom funny when it's done incorrectly.
 
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