"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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LADawg49

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For some reason when I start off with a woman im a true DJ and all but once we get into our first argument, I end up turning into an AFC. how can I prevent it from happening? For some reason, after one argument in a relationship I hit rock bottom from DJ to AFC.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Please give more details about a specific situation.

1) The history of the relationship.

2) when did the problem start?

3) what was the argument, main issue, how did you handle it?
 

LADawg49

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Wassup Dawg? Its not just this one but in my past relationship also.. With my first girl, was a long distance relationship and things goin well, I was DJ and all but then one day when she cussed me out and threaten to throw me out the car over nothing(I live in Cali and she in NC, and i was in NC at the time visitn her). I started cryin(yes thats right) and apologizin many times. After that, I was straight up AFC and things were never the same again.
This time, my girl becomes cold and distant for the past week and I call yesterday to apologize for talkin too much bout sex and all and she gets even more upset. She called today but wasnt the same. She wasn't laughin at my jokes and only givin one word answers.. I was complete AFC when talkin to her today.. What advice would u give to stop turnin into AFC after an argument with a woman?
 

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You seem to be pissing off women quite easily and you also seem to wear your emotions on your sleeve.

Of coarse you will piss off a girl if you talk too much about sex, too much of everything is a bad thing and it becomes annoying.

You were crying over a fight? and then say you are sorry like graveling fool? Is this how a Don Juan acts? First off you shouldn't be crying and second don't say you are sorry if you believe you are right! that makes you a wuss.

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"What advice would u give to stop turnin into AFC after an argument with a woman?"

First off, you shouldn't get into arguments with chicks so often. Its either the type of women you pick are really b1tchy or you are the one with the problems who can't control his emotions and explodes ( you already showed that you cried).

If you feel you are about to get into an argument keep you mouth shut and act cool, don't let a woman disrespect you and get inside your head, just walk away and let everything quiet down, and in the meantime go hit on other chicks.

Also look up on EQ (emotional Intelligence) find a good book that will help you.
 

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yo dawg, i like the fact u bein upfront and yes that is the worst thing I ever did was cry cause back then I was straight up AFC. now that I realized the problem, Im tryin to reform myself and never again will I cry..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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