For some reason when I start off with a woman im a true DJ and all but once we get into our first argument, I end up turning into an AFC. how can I prevent it from happening? For some reason, after one argument in a relationship I hit rock bottom from DJ to AFC.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Argument with GF
- Thread starter LADawg49
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Wassup Dawg? Its not just this one but in my past relationship also.. With my first girl, was a long distance relationship and things goin well, I was DJ and all but then one day when she cussed me out and threaten to throw me out the car over nothing(I live in Cali and she in NC, and i was in NC at the time visitn her). I started cryin(yes thats right) and apologizin many times. After that, I was straight up AFC and things were never the same again.
This time, my girl becomes cold and distant for the past week and I call yesterday to apologize for talkin too much bout sex and all and she gets even more upset. She called today but wasnt the same. She wasn't laughin at my jokes and only givin one word answers.. I was complete AFC when talkin to her today.. What advice would u give to stop turnin into AFC after an argument with a woman?
This time, my girl becomes cold and distant for the past week and I call yesterday to apologize for talkin too much bout sex and all and she gets even more upset. She called today but wasnt the same. She wasn't laughin at my jokes and only givin one word answers.. I was complete AFC when talkin to her today.. What advice would u give to stop turnin into AFC after an argument with a woman?
You seem to be pissing off women quite easily and you also seem to wear your emotions on your sleeve.
Of coarse you will piss off a girl if you talk too much about sex, too much of everything is a bad thing and it becomes annoying.
You were crying over a fight? and then say you are sorry like graveling fool? Is this how a Don Juan acts? First off you shouldn't be crying and second don't say you are sorry if you believe you are right! that makes you a wuss.
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"What advice would u give to stop turnin into AFC after an argument with a woman?"
First off, you shouldn't get into arguments with chicks so often. Its either the type of women you pick are really b1tchy or you are the one with the problems who can't control his emotions and explodes ( you already showed that you cried).
If you feel you are about to get into an argument keep you mouth shut and act cool, don't let a woman disrespect you and get inside your head, just walk away and let everything quiet down, and in the meantime go hit on other chicks.
Also look up on EQ (emotional Intelligence) find a good book that will help you.
Of coarse you will piss off a girl if you talk too much about sex, too much of everything is a bad thing and it becomes annoying.
You were crying over a fight? and then say you are sorry like graveling fool? Is this how a Don Juan acts? First off you shouldn't be crying and second don't say you are sorry if you believe you are right! that makes you a wuss.
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"What advice would u give to stop turnin into AFC after an argument with a woman?"
First off, you shouldn't get into arguments with chicks so often. Its either the type of women you pick are really b1tchy or you are the one with the problems who can't control his emotions and explodes ( you already showed that you cried).
If you feel you are about to get into an argument keep you mouth shut and act cool, don't let a woman disrespect you and get inside your head, just walk away and let everything quiet down, and in the meantime go hit on other chicks.
Also look up on EQ (emotional Intelligence) find a good book that will help you.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.