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If women ask you if you're married, is that a **** test? How to answer?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I read that on Roissy's blog but I don't think he elaborated much on that. What exactly is that supposed to do and what do you say if she asks you what you mean by that?Rollo Tomassi said:HER: "Are you married?"
YOU:"It's complicated"
I'd assume it would get her thinking about how you might be available and how she might have a chance with you. And at the same time "demonstrating" that you get girls.S. Pryor said:I read that on Roissy's blog but I don't think he elaborated much on that. What exactly is that supposed to do and what do you say if she asks you what you mean by that?
I just went back and read the article and it talked about what it's supposed to do and if a girl asks you what it means. I remembered the article but I forgot it's exact content. I think the confusion came when the girl in the article was explaining what it meant but to me it didn't seem plausible. I couldn't imagine a woman asking "hey is that woman over there your girlfriend?" And the guy saying "it's complicated" but the woman just leaves it alone. Maybe the girl in the article wouldn't try to get details but I think most women would would verbally say what do you mean by that? I don't think they'll just let you off the hook that easy and move on to something else. Plus as a man I don't think I would be comfortable nor genuinely say (if I were to try it) "it's complicated". That sounds like something a woman would say, to me, but hey if it works I can't argue with results.Huffman said:I'd assume it would get her thinking about how you might be available and how she might have a chance with you. And at the same time "demonstrating" that you get girls.
On the other hand, maybe if she's a "good" girl with high standards she'll try to stay clear of you? Personally I would be put off by somebody who's in a complicated, but very serious relationship.
I'd go with some joke "No... why? You wanna marry me?" and then tease her for some time about that... haha I'm getting alot of ideas right now![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.