highconscienceness
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If women ask you if you're married, is that a **** test? How to answer?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Are you married?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Why would that be a sh1t test? That's an IOI.
Respond with the truth and ask a c&f question back.
Respond with the truth and ask a c&f question back.
highconscienceness
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What are some good c&f questions?
Rollo Tomassi
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HER: "Are you married?"
YOU:"It's complicated"
YOU:"It's complicated"
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"It depends."
Edit: terran, I wouldn't necessarily imply that our friend hc is trying to cheat. Like I always mention, "the devil's in the details..."
hc, what were the circumstances under which she asked you?
Edit: terran, I wouldn't necessarily imply that our friend hc is trying to cheat. Like I always mention, "the devil's in the details..."
hc, what were the circumstances under which she asked you?
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I'd assume it would get her thinking about how you might be available and how she might have a chance with you. And at the same time "demonstrating" that you get girls.S. Pryor said:
On the other hand, maybe if she's a "good" girl with high standards she'll try to stay clear of you? Personally I would be put off by somebody who's in a complicated, but very serious relationship.
I'd go with some joke "No... why? You wanna marry me?" and then tease her for some time about that... haha I'm getting alot of ideas right now
highconscienceness
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I always get asked if I'm married. I'm not married. Every time I go to someone's house they ask me if I'm married or not.
I just went back and read the article and it talked about what it's supposed to do and if a girl asks you what it means. I remembered the article but I forgot it's exact content. I think the confusion came when the girl in the article was explaining what it meant but to me it didn't seem plausible. I couldn't imagine a woman asking "hey is that woman over there your girlfriend?" And the guy saying "it's complicated" but the woman just leaves it alone. Maybe the girl in the article wouldn't try to get details but I think most women would would verbally say what do you mean by that? I don't think they'll just let you off the hook that easy and move on to something else. Plus as a man I don't think I would be comfortable nor genuinely say (if I were to try it) "it's complicated". That sounds like something a woman would say, to me, but hey if it works I can't argue with results.Huffman said:I'd assume it would get her thinking about how you might be available and how she might have a chance with you. And at the same time "demonstrating" that you get girls.
On the other hand, maybe if she's a "good" girl with high standards she'll try to stay clear of you? Personally I would be put off by somebody who's in a complicated, but very serious relationship.
I'd go with some joke "No... why? You wanna marry me?" and then tease her for some time about that... haha I'm getting alot of ideas right now
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/05/26/two-words-women-love-to-hear/
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.