highconscienceness
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If women ask you if you're married, is that a **** test? How to answer?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Are you married?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Why would that be a sh1t test? That's an IOI.
Respond with the truth and ask a c&f question back.
Respond with the truth and ask a c&f question back.
highconscienceness
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What are some good c&f questions?
Rollo Tomassi
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HER: "Are you married?"
YOU:"It's complicated"
YOU:"It's complicated"
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
"It depends."
Edit: terran, I wouldn't necessarily imply that our friend hc is trying to cheat. Like I always mention, "the devil's in the details..."
hc, what were the circumstances under which she asked you?
Edit: terran, I wouldn't necessarily imply that our friend hc is trying to cheat. Like I always mention, "the devil's in the details..."
hc, what were the circumstances under which she asked you?
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I'd assume it would get her thinking about how you might be available and how she might have a chance with you. And at the same time "demonstrating" that you get girls.S. Pryor said:
On the other hand, maybe if she's a "good" girl with high standards she'll try to stay clear of you? Personally I would be put off by somebody who's in a complicated, but very serious relationship.
I'd go with some joke "No... why? You wanna marry me?" and then tease her for some time about that... haha I'm getting alot of ideas right now
highconscienceness
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I always get asked if I'm married. I'm not married. Every time I go to someone's house they ask me if I'm married or not.
I just went back and read the article and it talked about what it's supposed to do and if a girl asks you what it means. I remembered the article but I forgot it's exact content. I think the confusion came when the girl in the article was explaining what it meant but to me it didn't seem plausible. I couldn't imagine a woman asking "hey is that woman over there your girlfriend?" And the guy saying "it's complicated" but the woman just leaves it alone. Maybe the girl in the article wouldn't try to get details but I think most women would would verbally say what do you mean by that? I don't think they'll just let you off the hook that easy and move on to something else. Plus as a man I don't think I would be comfortable nor genuinely say (if I were to try it) "it's complicated". That sounds like something a woman would say, to me, but hey if it works I can't argue with results.Huffman said:I'd assume it would get her thinking about how you might be available and how she might have a chance with you. And at the same time "demonstrating" that you get girls.
On the other hand, maybe if she's a "good" girl with high standards she'll try to stay clear of you? Personally I would be put off by somebody who's in a complicated, but very serious relationship.
I'd go with some joke "No... why? You wanna marry me?" and then tease her for some time about that... haha I'm getting alot of ideas right now
http://roissy.wordpress.com/2010/05/26/two-words-women-love-to-hear/
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.