Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Are you done yet?

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How would you guys handle it if your gf or a girl you are seeing while having sex and thinking your doing a great job, she's moaning and all and then asks you in a bored seeming way: Are you done yet?

Immediate next? Or would you try harder to pleasure her next time?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lizardking82

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Try harder to pleasure her the next time? I would just pull out right there and leave and never look back LOL. Noone asks me "are you done?" because to begin with, I am passionate about it and I want the other person to be passionate about it so I have sex with people who feel me. If they don't feel me early on, be it in the way they kiss and no further than that, NEXT. Got no time for people who see sex as something you do when you're bored.
 

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Try harder to pleasure her the next time? I would just pull out right there and leave and never look back LOL. Noone asks me "are you done?" because to begin with, I am passionate about it and I want the other person to be passionate about it so I have sex with people who feel me. If they don't feel me early on, be it in the way they kiss and no further than that, NEXT. Got no time for people who see sex as something you do when you're bored.
Yeah, that would turn me off, too. She working, not having a good time. Probably faking.
 

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I would try to finish up by letting off a nice explosion in her face.
 

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You should of said.. Yea I am done, then get dressed and leave!

Not a good sign my friend. Was this the first time you two had sex?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I had this happen to me in 2011 and 1998. It's rude to the point of being potentially traumatizing.

It means she is a lost cause. Dump her and don't take her back unless she begs for sex. She is cold-hearted. It should never happen.
 

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Oh, I've heard that, feels bad man
agree with bigneil, very rude, dump immediately
 

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Or you demote her to sex toy and make the sex all about you. You do NOTHING to please her. You get yours, then get dressed and leave.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Or you demote her to sex toy and make the sex all about you. You do NOTHING to please her. You get yours, then get dressed and leave.
Dude. Her comment is all about inflating her ego at the expense of yours. If you keep putting your D in her with this attitude and words coming out of her mouth, it will F with your erections and confidence! For real.

You could plate her and allow her to only do oral on you so she can't say nothing cause her mouth is full.
 

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Dude. Her comment is all about inflating her ego at the expense of yours. If you keep putting your D in her with this attitude and words coming out of her mouth, it will F with your erections and confidence! For real.

You could plate her and allow her to only do oral on you so she can't say nothing cause her mouth is full.
Of course she is trying to inflate her ego. That is why you make everything about you only
 

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I had this happen to me in 2011 and 1998. It's rude to the point of being potentially traumatizing.

It means she is a lost cause. Dump her and don't take her back unless she begs for sex. She is cold-hearted. It should never happen.
Did you have plates when it happened to you? I was one itised and my lady was doing me like this back in 2009... She was still taking the sex, but laying their like a dead body, and then you get the
erection deflating comments like you said "ARE YOU DONE YET?"... She was fighting me actively during those years and wasn't trying to do anything that would "help" me...
 

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The answer is "no", obviously.

Honestly, I had this but never overtly.

And I haven't had it once since being game-aware...

Tells you something, doesn't it? Don't be a pvssy. Take what you want, and leave her wanting more whilst you drink beer, and listen to tunes.

Don't be a sexual provider. I've tried increasing my sexual game, and I got called a "lesbian". That soon snapped me out of it.

Satisfy yourself. Be selfish, and spin plates.
What if I get the pleasure feeling her get satisfied? Like, if she's not enjoying it, it turns me off in general.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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