I have met *gym guy* while working out
This is spot on
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NwtkqTu8iak&feature=related
This is spot on
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NwtkqTu8iak&feature=related
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
As they say, if you are annoyed by this, and cannot see the humor, then you ARE *gym guy*Drum&Bass said:This video was ghey as fuk !!!! ANYONE who is serious about weightlifting is guilty of a few or more of those things. None of them are that big of a deal.
Just another pencil neck geek who gets nervous working out next to strong people.
What Jim outta do is get a membership at planet fitness "the judgement free zone" gym and start rocking purple t-shirts to match his feelings about working out in a gym.
Anyone else that agrees with him is a BIG GIANT PUSSEE !!!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
:crackup:Trader said:I have met *gym guy* while working out
This is spot on
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NwtkqTu8iak&feature=related
Planet Fitness is possibly the gayest gym ever.Drum&Bass said:This video was ghey as fuk !!!! ANYONE who is serious about weightlifting is guilty of a few or more of those things. None of them are that big of a deal.
Just another pencil neck geek who gets nervous working out next to strong people.
What Jim outta do is get a membership at planet fitness "the judgement free zone" gym and start rocking purple t-shirts to match his feelings about working out in a gym.
Anyone else that agrees with him is a BIG GIANT PUSSEE !!!
Trader said:As they say, if you are annoyed by this, and cannot see the humor, then you ARE *gym guy*
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What if their inward is more embarrassing and unsightly than the outward? Usually it's the ones with faults of their own or ugly personalities who are insulting others because they cannot bear to confront themselves.Julius_Seizeher said:Talk about nitpicking! Next he takes on "car guy", you know, "that guy who drives a car down the road, probably with the radio on, what the hell is that about?"
Jim Rome should worry less about what others are doing and more about what his pecs are not doing. That goes for everybody - those who devote their imagination and energy to looking for reasons to criticize others, accomplish little else. Turn that critical eye inward instead of outward, and you just might get somewhere.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.