"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Are these good or bad signs?
- Thread starter styleman
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Charm&Style
Master Don Juan
In all honesty the "signs" you have mentioned are nothing special.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
How long have you been "together?"
What have you done physically?
I don't know how to make a move, damn serious, women have always mad a move on me. Serious problem I guess...Charm&Style said:Have you made a move?
In all honesty the "signs" you have mentioned are nothing special.
Agree nothing special, but usually these come after sex, not before!
I don't know how to make a move, damn serious, women have always mad a move on me. Serious problem I guess...Charm&Style said:Have you made a move?
In all honesty the "signs" you have mentioned are nothing special.
Agree nothing special, but usually these come after sex, not before!
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Known of her quite a whileMaxtro said:How long have you known her?
How long have you been "together?"
What have you done physically?
Around 4 dates,
kissed is the extent of 'physically'
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
When you say kissed, I hope you mean made out for at least a couple of minutes. If not you need to do it.
When you're making out let your hands wander. There is a ton of info on this site about foreplay and getting girls ready for sex. Look for stuff about kino.
What matters most though, is that if you don't make the move it probably won't happen. BTW who kissed whom first and how did it happen?
Maxtro said:OK so it seems that you've been dating her for about a month, I'm guessing one date a week.
When you say kissed, I hope you mean made out for at least a couple of minutes. If not you need to do it.
When you're making out let your hands wander. There is a ton of info on this site about foreplay and getting girls ready for sex. Look for stuff about kino.
What matters most though, is that if you don't make the move it probably won't happen. BTW who kissed whom first and how did it happen?
She kissed me, as I said, I have never made the first move on a woman... Just too afraid to being called a rapist or some **** like that...
As far as social interaction goes I'd say I'm a very confident and self righteous guy, its just that when it comes to getting physical I don't initiate mostly due to fear entrained into me, if they don't want it, then I could get into trouble.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
sorry buddy but no woman is gonna call you a rapist for trying to kiss her. If you've shown any interest in her she'll be expecting it. Kiss this girl NOW!!!!styleman said:She kissed me, as I said, I have never made the first move on a woman... Just too afraid to being called a rapist or some **** like that...
As far as social interaction goes I'd say I'm a very confident and self righteous guy, its just that when it comes to getting physical I don't initiate mostly due to fear entrained into me, if they don't want it, then I could get into trouble.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.