You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Brad who? Anyway, yes, I would say some would'nt like to kiss on the 1st date as a rule.Originally posted by Fatality
Are girls for real when they say they don't kiss on the first date or or is it a way of saying "I don't want to kiss you"? If she was on a date with Brad Pitt I think she would kiss him. What do you think?
You think your not good looking enough that's why she won't kiss on the first date, not necessarily, but possible. If you go out on at least 3 dates and still haven't kissed, drop her. That's just my personal opinion though.If she was on a date with Brad Pitt I think she would kiss him
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I mentioned Brad Pitt because he seems to be the guy just about every girl wants. I just felt that these girls who claim to never kiss on the first date would kiss him.Originally posted by BigWillyStyle
I guess there are some types that don't kiss on first date ie christain girls, super high morals girls...
But I've never dated one. I've made out with all girls on first dates, alot turned out to be hoes mind you.
You think your not good looking enough that's why she won't kiss on the first date, not necessarily, but possible. If you go out on at least 3 dates and still haven't kissed, drop her. That's just my personal opinion though.
P.S. Please don't tell me you ask girls if you can kiss them on the date, oh sweet mother of mary please say no...![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's pretty much what I was thinking when I posted this thread. I just wanted other opinions.Originally posted by JT47319
ALL GIRLS WILL KISS/MAKEOUT ON THE FIRST DATE. If they don't with you, that means your GAME ISN'T TIGHT (not that they have high morals).
Really, if YOU, a guy, could kiss and makeout with girls on the first date, WOULDN'T YOU? Morality & ethics don't even come into the question at the point.
Girls are sexual, horny people too. Don't put them on some sort of fucking pedestal thinking they're all special, pure virgins.
THEY WANT YOU (or if not you, someone BETTER THAN YOU).
I have to disagree with what you're saying. There's nothing wrong with telling a girl you had a good time... you don't have to be Mr. Neg-hit 100% of the timeOriginally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
you thank some one for a favour, you can say you had a good time that is fine but when you thank some one that implys it was a favour, and a date is not suposed to be a favour and if you make it look like she was doing you a favour, thne she will belive it and think it, and thats not good
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.